Originally Posted by bejb1011 /img/forum/go_quote.gif marriage is finding out that something as insignificant as how you get toothpaste out of the tube can turn into a world war. no its...marriage doesnt change things it just puts a label on what allready exists.love.passion.trust.comfort.balance.understa nding.buyig cookie dough ice cream eatting the cookie dough while he eats the ice cream. when you go for dinner and yours is utterly horriable its tradeing dinners. its learning to cook so he stops eatting frozen dinners and pizzas.accepting the fact that your wife really doesnt know how to work the dishwasher or mop floors and doing it yourself.its slathering vaseline on his face so when you look good he looks good. its spending hours in guitar center and being rewarded with him speding 3 days pay in mac. its knowing that when it snows he starts your car and brushes it off so its warm when you get in. takeing him to get a pedicure and finding out he likes it and not telling his friends. its staying in bed on a cold sunday morning and snuggleing and not leaving the bed. its rolling over after a bad dream and having someone hold you and look in the closet and under the bed for monsters. not being mad when you have to get a new dvd player every other month because your wife fries it. its sharing your shampoo and hair stuff with him cause he likes the way it smells. its showing him how to comb his hair and takeing him for highlites and him running around the coach store trying to find the perfect purse for the pickiest woman on earth who has everything.its calling him to scream"JULIA DID IT WITH THE MIDGET SHE FCUKED THE MIDGET JEFF SHE DID THE MIDGET!!" after nip/tuck because you just cant deal with it and lisa wants to hit you because she doesnt know what youre talking about.its him offering to take off work to go to the dr with you. its...no matter what happends no matter what you still love him...lisa i answered my own questions in this post LOL Awww, that's really sweet and it definitely sounds like there's no doubt in your mind you love Jeff!
I think marriage can fill a void caused by loneliness or despair. It can satisfy our inborn craving for love, companionship, and intimacy. While it can and does solve some problems....it will introduce some new ones too. This is because marriage is the blending of two distinct personalities that are perhaps compatible but hardly identical.
Every marriage has it's own unique challenges and problems. The question is not whether they will arise but how to face them when they do. Such problems give marriage partners opportunity to show the genuineness of their love for each other. It's these trials that prove the strength of a marriage bond. This is where commitment comes into play and provides a basis for confidence that, come what may, you will support each other.
Marriage takes constant effort and work and let me tell you....it's not always easy but it is very rewarding. One of my favorite scriptures from the bible that I think all marriages can benefit from following is 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 which says,
"Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails."
