My husband is all over me now but he was VERY respectful and VERY shy (and yes, a bit damaged). It took me kinda putting my foot down and then later kissing him first. I had to break all of the ice but it was totally worth it. It sounds like your crush is just scared to make any first moves. The first kiss will probably be a little awkward and forced, but trust me, it will help him loosen up in the long run and it's all downhill from there.
