[pinksugar]

I think I agree - I think this can be fixed, but I really think it is far too soon to think about getting married when this is all so raw.

I would ask him to commit to relationship counselling or therapy with me until we had reached somewhere in our relationship where we could get the trust back.

Basically, if he isn't prepared to work out your mistrust of him, then he's not prepared to change and chances are he'll continue to do what he's done behind your back.

I'm not saying this relationship is doomed or that you can't get past it, but it will require effort on both sides, and I personally think he should have to put more in, being as how he's the one that screwed up...

best of luck chicken!