[Maysie]

I believe that people make mistakes and can change. But I think its a pretty crappy excuse he gave you (to say the least) about needing to turn to another woman when you were PREGNANT because he needed intimacy. That's the most vulnerable a woman can be in my opinion. Then again no reason he could give is going to make it better. Several years ago my fiance cheated on me (was talking to and had kissed a girl at work...we weren't engaged yet), and we were able to get past it through counseling and time. I did check up on him often, but he understood that it was going to take a LONG time for me to trust him again. And since he knew that and was supportive and went to counseling with me, I believe we're closer than ever as a result. Then last year he proposed and we're going to be married this coming May. I think it really depends on the person though...he needs to fully understand how he hurt you and be committed to doing whatever it takes to make it work. I wouldn't go making any big decisions about marriage for at least several years. One thing about counseling if you go, make sure it's someone you feel comfortable with the first time you go...you may need to go to a few to find someone you like.