[S. Lisa Smith]

My wife smoked when we first met (she started when she was 14 or 16). I never have, except for a cigar here and there. I suggested that she stop. Not really an ultimatum, but I let her know it was a deal killer. She gave it up cold turkey and except for one incident when we were married and living in Hawaii (she was under a bunch of stress at work) she hasn't smoked since. That was 33 years ago. Stick to your guns!