[pinksugar]

I believe that cheaters can change definately, but I do think a lot of work needs to be done on both sides re: the trust issue. It's something you have to build back up and it does require a lot of forgiveness and tolerance on the part of the person cheated on. Not everyone can get past it.

That being said, I also think that sometimes the reason that someone has cheated need to be taken into account. Is there an underlying issue that has not been resolved which is what gave them the idea that it was 'ok' or justifiable?

(not that I'm condoning cheating or anything, I'm just saying it's more complex in my mind than just that. And I've been on both sides too - cheater and cheated)