[tuna_fish]

so, my guy is great. He's very nice, etc. But I would like him to do more things...like, suprise my with little things. Or compliment me more. I don't think he won't or can't do them, I jsut dont think that he knows what or when to do them. He even came over for Easter dinner and met my parents for the first time and didn't bring flowers or anything. I don't want to change him...is it wrong of me to want these things? He's good to me, but I don't know how relationships work. I don't think I am expecting too much ...and if I'm not, how do I let him know I'd like these things without making him feel bad?

[kaylin_marie]

For the most part...some guys are like that and some guys just aren't. I wouldn't come right out and say "i wish you'd do this and this" cause it might hurt his feelings. Maybe point out things when your watching movies or t.v. and say "awww that's so sweet" and maybe he'll pick up that you'd like things like that. If you guys have that kind of relationship your could playfully nudge him and say something like "why don't you ever do stuff like that for me stinker" or something like that...but only if you know he wouldn't get mad or feel bad about it. Do you do things like that for him?? Maybe if you surprised him with little things he would want to return the favor?

I don't know, just throwing out ideas.

[pinksugar]

I always let my boyfriend know if it's appropriate to bring flowers or chocolates to family events or bring a present.

To be honest, I don't think there's anything wrong with these hopes or expectations of yours, however, I do think that you can't expect your boyfriend to be a mind reader. If you want them, tell him. Explain how you want it done, in a non-aggressive way. You could say something like 'I'd really like it if you surprise me with flowers sometimes, for no reason.'

[tuna_fish]

Those are all good ideas! We've only been dating for a month, so I definately don't want to confront him with things. I bought him a new candle for his place as a suprise because he had mentioned that he needed a new one. I got into a car accident yesterday, and today was his day off, so I thought he'd come to my job or something (like he's done before) to bring me a flower or something. I definately don't want to expect too much, as he is good to me, but I think slow hints are a good idea. I'm afraid of doing a lot of little things...because he might think that I'm obsessing or something...too forward.

[pinksugar]

I agree with you, doing too much stuff might seem a bit 'how to lose a guy in 10 days' ish, LOL - don't buy him a love fern

Best of luck with everything, keep us updated

[S. Lisa Smith]

You've only been dating a month, be cool. As your relationship grows it will mature and you will be able to make little suggestions. Now is way too soon! Hope you are OK after the accident.

[Dragonfly]

In relationships, you have to ask for what you want.
But since you guys are just starting out, I agree with Lisa.

[luxotika]

I agree with Carolyn and Lisa.

[ColdDayInHell]

Originally Posted by luxotika

I agree with Carolyn and Lisa.

Me too!

[Killah Kitty]

Yup I have to agree with the rest of the girls. At the start of a relationship you cant expect too much in way of little things. You two barely know what each other like as far as cuddling or not, chocolates, flowers, etc.

In the beginnings of my relationship we never got each other anything lol just birthday presents and Christmas presents. My guy isnt very romantic, but as we got to know each other better, he learned that I really am. And one day he wanted to apologize for something, so he met me at school with a bouquet of roses. Our 2nd (or 3rd?) Christmas together, he got me a romantic card and wrote me a letter, because he knows now I like that stuff

Just give it time, you know, we still dont get each other little things, but we go out for some fast food, or go shopping together, and I think that counts too, as well as compliments, etc.