[laurreenn]

do you think cheaters change? do you think a relationship can really repair itself after a betrayal of that magnitude?

[KatJ]

I absolutely believe that cheaters can change. As for the repairing of the relationship, I don't know. Once that trust is broken, I dont understand how it could ever be recreated. Personally, if my husband cheated on me, I would never be able to stay with him. He feels the same way.

[empericalbeauty]

No. cheaters dont change and No i wont forgive Chris if he cheated on me. Nor would he if i did the same. Its always going to be in the air. no trust. no way, dude.

[Anthea]

I feel cheaters can change, but I think only a small percentage do. Some relationships can be repaired, my Uncle cheated on my Aunt about 30 years ago, they worked it out and are still together.

[jacquelyna]

I think some people are capable of changing. I fogive but don't forget, there would always be a trust issue. For me it would be impossible to resume a relationship, if I knew the guy cheated on me.

[pinksugar]

I believe that cheaters can change definately, but I do think a lot of work needs to be done on both sides re: the trust issue. It's something you have to build back up and it does require a lot of forgiveness and tolerance on the part of the person cheated on. Not everyone can get past it.

That being said, I also think that sometimes the reason that someone has cheated need to be taken into account. Is there an underlying issue that has not been resolved which is what gave them the idea that it was 'ok' or justifiable?

(not that I'm condoning cheating or anything, I'm just saying it's more complex in my mind than just that. And I've been on both sides too - cheater and cheated)

[Beyonce Welch]

Mu husband didn't forgive me and I can't blame him because I was cheating on him by being with another women. I had repressed my sexuality for many years and I could not promise him that I would not repeat my activities. If I were cheating on him by being with a man he may have forgiven me, but only one time.

[SewAmazing]

I instantly ended a 6 yr. relationship after I found out my live-in ex boyfriend was having a secret relationship with another woman for 2 yrs. He was a single dad, and I raised his son while we were together, and I really loved that child! I realized that this was not about me, but about him, so I was out. He got married to a woman (but not the one he cheated with) who felt that all he needed was "a good woman" (since it obviously wasn't me) to stop his deceitful ways. He has been married for 8 yrs. and has 3 outside children with yet another side woman. He and his wife don't have children, but she is staying with him because she doesn't want to be divorced...I look at her now and just know she paid a high price for her choice...

[speerrituall1]

A cheater may change but the trust can never be restored.

[mac-whore]

that's something in my opinion that is absolutely unacceptable. do i think a cheater can change??? rarely but, yes. will i stick around to figure that out? no. life is too short.

[Nick007]

I don't know if they can change, maybe if they really want to change. The forgiveness one is hard, because you can't erase that from your memory. I would dwell on it forever! That's hurtful.

[puncturedskirt]

Like a few said already, I think they can change... (Not usually though) but the trust will be pretty hard to get back.

[GlossyAbby]

Anyone can change... but a cheater has to WANT to change. It can be forgiven but I think it would take a lot of time and possibly counseling

[love2482]

Originally Posted by speerrituall1

A cheater may change but the trust can never be restored.

True

[jmgjmg623]

Originally Posted by mac-whore

that's something in my opinion that is absolutely unacceptable. do i think a cheater can change??? rarely but, yes. will i stick around to figure that out? no. life is too short.