[Andi]

Sooo, I´ve been with my fiancé for almost 3 years now, engaged for 1 1/2years. It was always clear that I´d finish med school in Austria and then move to the US and we´d get married there. I always thought I will never be the type of bride who gets cold feet shortly before the big day, because in my naive mind that would mean he´s not the one. But now I only have a little over 1 year left till I graduate, so the big day is coming closer and closer and I´m wondering...you can never say never, right?

So I´m interested, did any of you ladies experience the scared-bride syndrome? How did you handle it? Did the groom have it too?

[Adrienne]

I think everyone goes through with it but it sounds like you and your future hubby are great together. I just let pass through bc c'mon, its the choice of being with him that makes him special. I'm pretty sure that he does things that no one can do. Maybe its the way he makes you smile, or that cute little something that brings out his boyish charm. Either way, i'm sure you'll do great as a married couple.

[pinksugar]

well I'm not married but I will be interested to see what everyone says.

Anders, I reckon that pretty much everyone must have at least a minute of panic, because it's something that will change your life, it's a big big decision and it's natural to freak out just a little!

[GlossyAbby]

I went through it....The morning of my big day... I think it just comes down to nerves...You plan this huge wedding for over a year and there is so much stress around the big day.... and then kissing goodbye your singleness.... I guess it all hit me at once...I was a birdezilla too... my poor busband.. My mom was like don't do it then Abby ..... when I was telling her about my cold feet she told me who cares about the money (a little over 30k my mom and dad spent) .... and once she told me that it didnt matter it all just hit me of course he was the one I wanted I just got freaked out..weddings do that I think...

[Andi]

ok good to know this is not just something you see in movies, it happens in real life too. I can´t really ask my mom cause she was almost 8 months pregnant with me, and it was a very small wedding, so it´d be silly to have cold feet when you´re already pregnant by the guy lol.

I can definitely see why your nerves would go crazy if you have a huge wedding planned. Ours is gonna be fairly small I believe, and neither of us wants to spend a lot of $. Well, the bride´s dad is supposed to pay for most, but I don´t want that either.

I just know I have hard time with big changes in my life in general. I´d like for things to always stay the same. But that´d be pretty boring

[Carolyn]

I have to tell you that I had cold feet leading up to the marriage.
I remember borrowing the In law's car - they had an old 60s tape that played Wedding Bell Blues. All could think of was a college crush named Bill, and that I should have been with him.

Anyways, I went through with the marriage, but I knew I shouldn't have.
We did have a baby - my son - but we finally parted ways four years after we met.

Sometimes I think Cold feet are symptomatic of nerves, and sometimes they are a warning to bale out.
But in hind sight, my cold feet were telling me this is not going to work. But I was too concerned about the money invested, and how so many had made sacrifices to attend the wedding.

[kdmakeuparts]

I didn't get cold feet, but we had been living together for almost 3 years, already had cars together, a bank account and stuff. SO really it was just legalizing our already sorta married life. And I just knew, this was who I was supposed to be with. A cousin asked me at the reception, "So how does it feel to be his wife?" And all I could say was, " Like it was always supposed to be this way." I know silly and corny, but true.

I do however remember having weird dreams about not being able to go somewhere or do something because I was "MARRIED" LOL!!!!

[debbiedeb77]

oh yes girl, i had major cold feet but i just decided to jump in with two feet lol, however i think my case was understandable since i only knew him for 3 months before we got married....were going on 10 yrs in aug! marriage is hard work but absolutely worth it!!

[empericalbeauty]

we arent married yet but i had a melt down once thinking about the "I will never be able to do..." shindigs

[KatJ]

I didn't get cold feet, I got a UTI & bladder infection! Seriously I was sick the whole entire week before we got married, I didn't get completely cured until the Thursday before our wedding (which was Saturday). In my wedding pics I have a HUGE bruise on my hand, LOL.

Okay, to get a little more back on topic... Me and Eric started dating in March, got engaged in October, and then got married in December. There was just something about him that I couldnt shake, and I had to have him... I couldnt stand the thought of living without him, and I never ever got cold feet.

[pinksugar]

aw Kat that is adorable.

i want to meet a man that feels that way about me! (and doesn't change his mind 6 months in!)

[laurreenn]

i think it's natural to have cold feet. marriage is a big decision that will permanently alter your life. it's normal to wonder about the alternatives and wonder if you're making the right choice. it's foolish to jump into a big decision like this without considering all the possibilities and consequences. after you've thought long and hard about whether you want to marry him and decide it's the right choice for you, then you'll know he's the right one. it's a better indicator than whether or not you get cold feet :]

[La_Mari]

I didn't but then again, we just eloped. I actually didn't realize I truly loved him until one day (a yr after we started dating) he had to go to training across the country and I cried and wouldn't let him go, and he cried too.

And then we got married 4 months later.

I just want to get old w/ him and take care of him.

[bronze_chiqz]

Well mine is exactly 34 dayz now before the BIGGGG day!!!!!!!!Im nt only having cold feet, having sleepless night and nervous lolz!

[pinkbundles]

I had major cold feet two months before my wedding. So much so that I wanted to call the whole thing off. I spent night after night crying to my fiance and telling him how I didn't think I was ready and blah, blah, blah. Of course, he wouldn't accept anything I said. Anyway, one day I sat quietly for who knows how long and really thought about everything. In the end, I decided that so much planning/money has gone into it. My parents and his parents would both be disappointed. My fiance would be soooo hurt. And I'd feel awful about the whole thing. So I decided that I need to go through with it and I did.