[MaddyBoo718]

If you've read any of my past posts, you'd know that I really like a guy friend of mine. And I'm pretty sure he likes me too. I'm just so confused right now because we haven't said that we like each other, but I just want to get it out in the open. But the thing is, I just got out of a long relationship, and I'm still not toally over my ex, and I'm not ready for a relationship. Do you think that we should just get it out in the open and stop trying to pretend we DON'T like each other when it's kind of obvious we both know we do? I'm not sure if that's the best thing to do right now, but I hate hiding things.

[pinksugar]

hmm. Tough. I think if you're totally sure, you should bring it out into the open, but let him know that you're not ready for a relationship. If he cares about you maybe he'll wait until you're both in a better position to decide whether you want to date or not.

Good luck!

[daer0n]

I think that its fine if you want to be honest and tell him, that doesn't mean that you have to start a relationship with him right away, you can also be honest about your feelings towards your ex and let your friend know that you have feelings for him but you aren't completely over your ex yet, maybe this will give you time to heal and get over your ex and start with a new and fresh relationship, you also sort of get some weight off your back and some stress so that you can concentrate on other things like school as you mentioned in your other thread before, i think honesty is always best, i also think that hiding things isnt the best

[laurreenn]

yea i understand that feeling of getting it out on the open (i hate hiding stuff too) but in this case since you don't know what you want yet i would wait. he hasn't said it yet either and there also may be a reason for that. maybe he can tell you're not completely over your ex yet. so whatever it is, he's also not talking. just wait until you know for sure what you want/know you're over your ex before you change the dynamics of this relationship.

[MaddyBoo718]

okay well i talked to him, and everything went so well. it turns out he DOES really like me back. he said that he knew and completely understood that i wasn't over my ex yet, and that he would wait for me. i really want to get over my ex so i can just MOVE ON.

[Carolyn]

IMO the best way to get over the past is to think about the present/future.

Doesn't mean that you should jump into a new relationship with your friend.
But there is nothing wrong with a group of your friends seeing a movie together or getting something to eat.

The two of you can do lunch together - nothing too serious, but you can slowly get to know each other.

Best of luck hun.