[missjade]

hey girls, just wanted to hear your views on wether you think men can hide their jealousy more than us!

im in a very weird relationship with timmy.......we try and see eachother as much as possible,and talk everyday on the phone.when we've been away from eachother for so long (me=uni and timmy=work) tension does build up and i always wonder what hes up 2! but...............


im so stubborn that i hate to ask what he spends his weekend doing.....id rather let him say what he wants.....sounds weird..........but i think its because im afraid to hear a girls name mentioned! (I DONT THINK I COULD HANDLE IT)

i know he's the same as i have a lot of male friends, especially from university who i would see daily when out with my friends.....i know he trusts me but i always wonder does he get jealous with me seeing them a lot..........

if so he never lets on!! haha i think its a game we have going until one of us gives in to our jealousy!

its hard bein in a relationship with timmy, as he has a child to his ex gf, he is beautiful and adores him completely! the thing is. i beat myself up inside thinking that they are goin to get back together.................and yesh i think id cry myself to death if they did..........

any1 else in the same position or has anything to say that could ease my mind? HAHA
ive attached a photo for use all to have a glance at him!! haha.....

[laurafaye]

Haha I know how you feel My boyfriend is off to Uni in September and I'm really worried, but tbh he isn't the type who goes out partying, hes more of a nerdy gamer lmao. And the girl he has a kid with is an ex for a reason, he's with you now so that's all that matters! And I think boys do get equally as jealous they just don't like showing it to look tough haha. I think theres jealousy in most relationships tbh..you just need to trust!

[missjade]

yeah definitly! i keep reminding myself that his ex is in the past but with them both being in contact regularly............i keep thinking

" AHHHHH, WHAT IF SHE ASKS TO GIVE THINGS ANOTHER CHANCE AND HE IS TOO SCARED TO SAY NO.....WHAT IF........WHAT IF............" LOL

but yeah, its something i need to get over.......

[fiercely]

Interesting topic. I just got into a argument (more like a discussion since we were civil) about jealousy. Right now my boyfriend and I are in separate countries (only for the summer).. he's from Italy and I'm from the USA but I study in Italy. I went out clubbing in NYC and he had to know everything, so I was very honest (and I always am) and told him everything. Keep in mind, since I've been back home I haven't been out, and I've been cooped up in my house. He goes out occasionally and normally doesn't really tell me anything, but that's ok with me. But if I don't tell him a lot, he gets suspicious. He told me "If you don't tell me, it means you're hiding something." I like to associate his personality with being a bit latin since he doesn't like to elaborate on his experiences going out. But he got very jealous when I told him things. So no, he's not good at hiding his jealousy. When we're out together, he usually is pretty protective of me, and likes to hold my hand or hold me, which I like a lot.
I get jealous a little about some of his friends that are girls, but for the most part he never even notices when a girl is flirting with him. And if he stares at girls, I really could careless because I stare at people too. When it comes to jealousy, I think he gets more worried than I do and his jealous is usually pretty evident.

[missjade]

yeah ......i do think that men do be more protective, especially when your around other people. its lovely that they can b affectionate, and share their feelings! but i can always tell when timmy is holding something from me! he probably doesn't realise it, but from one single conversation.....and a few words..........a big picture can be painted! but i do think its all basically down to "TRUSTING" eachother......

[pretty_pink13]

I had a long distance relationship with my bf until recently. I have to say that I am pretty jealous in general. His two "best" friends are girls and yeah I get pretty pissed off every now and again like today as a matter of fact. I don't know, I have always been this way. It's good that you have a solid communication. I don't even have that.

[TylerD]

Well i deffinitely think its fifty fifty for guys and girls.... I know I get extremely jealous and I try to work on it but thatgs just who I am and same with my gf.... However she doesnt have any other guy friends and I dont have girl....friends so we dont have anything to worry about.... We go out with friends all the time but were alwways together.... But yes I dont really have much advice because Im a jealous person myself. Just wanted to share that with you lol

[pinksugar]

I'll be honest. I haven't really been super jealous since I was in a fairly non-serious relationship when I was a teen. It was long distance and I realized that there was no way I'd ever know if he was cheating unless he told me. I had to learn to relax and let go.

Since then, I have felt mildly jealous on occasion - but I trust my instinct and my gut. If I'm jealous or angry then he is behaving in a way that is inappropriate. I would trust my feelings on this issue because I know that I'm quite laid back and casual.

I do think that men hide their jealousy better, there have been times when I had no idea my ex boyfriends were jealous, but it was usually over the most foolish things, which could easily be explained if they communicated better!

so, yeah, I think if you have a good relationship in which you communicate well and your boyfriend isn't a cheating jerk, then there should be minimal jealousy

[Ashley]

To me, it depends on the person, their personality, and experiences than their sex. Some people are just more jealous than others. Also, some people are more expressive of their feelings and will be more likely to show their jealously.

[sweetnsexy6953]

I'm a very jealous person. I try not to be but it doesnt seem to work. My boyfriend is a jealous person as well. I think maybe if we weren't cheated on in the past we wouldn't as jealous. I think I'm more jealous than he is. If I'm jealous he knows it and if he jealous I know it. I try not to be jealous but it just doesnt work.

[KatJ]

When my husband and I first got together he was soo jealous. Oh my goodness, it almost ruined our relationship. But after one long conversation of me telling him to get over it or I was gone, it was like the fog lifted and he realized what was going on. As for me, I have like zero jealousy issues. We were at Walmart a couple of nights ago and he said something I didn't understand, when I asked him about it he goes "I was talking to those girls that just walked by". I go "oh" and he spins around like "are you serious?" First of all, I knew he wasn't talking to them, and other than that I have complete trust in him. I mean hell, he lives in barracks with girls on the floor below his. If I didn't trust him I would be worried to death, and I really can't handle the stress.

Back on topic, my advice is this, if you're questioning what he's doing, you shouldn't be together. A relationship is NOTHING without trust.

[missjade]

yeah..that is def one to think about....i know that the first time i seriously doubt our trust is when i need to take a good look at our relationship..........

[Ricci]

I seen my SO get jealous once only because I have never given him a reason to
There is a guy (really handsome) that likes me a lot, always says hi to me in front of my SO and smiles and his face brightens up the moment he sees me.. My SO noticed it
I told him he liked me .. and he replied hes got greasy hair lol! mind u it was freshly washed

along with he look on his face I seen he was a bit jealous , but I noticed it made him appreciate me more..
cuz I still got the groove!

[Adrienne]

Hmm, like Ashley said, i don't think it depends at all on the gender of the person. I'd say it has alot to do with their upbringing, personality, past relationships and issues that they themselves have.

I myself have to deal with a jealous husband and its taken a toll on my love for him. Its hard but i'll get through it.

[magneticheart]

I think guys and girls get equally as jealous. I think it really depends on the person.
My friend and her boyfriend both get jealous but she's very good at hiding it and he's not so good lol
I'm not a jealous person at all but I think that's just my personality and not the fact that I'm a girl. I think a lot of the guys I know are quite bad at hiding their jealousy but that doesn't necessarily mean that they're MORE jealous than girls.