[pinksugar]

oh I am just so angry, I don't know what to do!
as you may know, skank faced ex and I broke up ages ago, and I have a lot of his stuff that needs to be returned. One of those items was a Nintendo Wii that we bought together. The deal we agreed to was that he would buy it off me - as in pay the remaining half. I've been trying to organise a time he can pick it up, along with his other stuff.

Then this morning he messaged me and said that his brother was keeping HIS wii at their dad's house and that he didn't want it, as he could use his brothers.

Essentially he was giving it to me for free but I couldn't help but think, wait a minute, we originally bought this for you, I hardly ever use it, and I don't WANT it. It reminds me of him.

I messaged him back and said so, politely - basically that it wasn't fair to go back on the original deal since I had wanted to money for my trip etc etc.

He messaged back saying he wasn't changing his mind just to make me happy and that he'd been pushed into the decision yadayada, and basically it degenerated to several messages in which he called me a money grabbing *****, that he'd put more money into the relationship etc etc.

I was shocked and hurt at this turn of events to be honest, we've had quite a good post breakup relationship until this point. I said that it wasn't my fault if he'd snorted and drunk the money he was going to give me, which was perhaps rather nasty, but said i was a ***** only wanting money!!

I tried to call a couple of times to discuss things reasonably but he didn't answer - eventually he said he was in the car with friends and couldn't take the call.

So, I can see what happened - he's *****ing to his mates about how I'm getting free money for the wii etc etc and they were all, don't let her get away with that, blah blah blokey talk, and then he messaged me and told everyone what he'd said, what I'd said etc.

Now, if he really didnt have the money, or he discussed this reasonably with me, then I probably would have agreed to take the wii anyway, but his attitude was really nasty.

So, what I'm wondering is -
a. What to do with his stuff. I don't want to see him EVER AGAIN
b. we have a scanner we borrowed from his Auntie. I like her and I don't want her to be disadvantaged because her nephew is a ****wit.
c. how can I recoup the money on the wii? it's practically new, hardly used, and I really don't want to keep it!

Any suggestions? I'm so upset that he would suddenly show his nasty streak and be a complete ******* about this.

(sorry it's so long - rant over - for now! LOL)

[Ashley]

If he doesn't want to pay for half and take the wii...you can always sell it on ebay!

[msmack]

Totally - sell the Wii. Give the scanner back to Auntie. Be done with that immature *******! If you have any remaining stuff of his, pack it. Tell him when to pick it up - if not, give it to the thrift store.

[KatJ]

a. either give it all away, or sell it on ebay or a like site
b. give the scanner back since you like her. she doesn't deserve to lose out because of her **** of a nephew
c. SELL IT! NOW!!! Put it on ebay right now, or here. I would suggest ebay though.

[Shelley]

I agree with the others..

Give the scanner back to the Auntie.
Sell the wii on ebay or through the newspaper classifieds.
The rest of his items pack up and give him a certain time to pick them up ( I would leave the boxes on the doorstep) otherwise donate them to a thrift store.

You don't deserve this treatment from him.

I hope this helped. Hugs.

[pinksugar]

I'm also annoyed at his juvenile way of talking to me. I should just send him an email with the ebay listing in it - he could BUY his stuff back off me, the jerk!

I'm concerned about ebay - I don't think I will get as much as I would have if he'd stuck to his side of the bargain.

Also, I don't have access to his aunty - she lives pretty far away, like 400kms! so he would have to come and get it to send on to her. Seriously what an ******* to be so nasty all of a sudden

[Ashley]

If he was only paying for half, I think you'll be able to get more than that on ebay. Do you have any games to include?

[pinksugar]

yes, I do.. and controller covers, the nun-chuk thingie majings...

It really hurt my feelings that he thinks of me that way. I know it shouldn't since he's an ex and a jerk etc etc... but i don't want anyone to think of me that way, even if he was being encouraged by his friends.

[Ashley]

Don't be sad Rosie, he was probably just riled up at the moment.

[pretty_pink13]

Originally Posted by pinksugar

I'm also annoyed at his juvenile way of talking to me. I should just send him an email with the ebay listing in it - he could BUY his stuff back off me, the jerk!

I'm concerned about ebay - I don't think I will get as much as I would have if he'd stuck to his side of the bargain.

Also, I don't have access to his aunty - she lives pretty far away, like 400kms! so he would have to come and get it to send on to her. Seriously what an ******* to be so nasty all of a sudden

I think you should send him the link with the wii listed, it shows that your serious and you don't mess around- and with his stuff...if it really means that much to him, I'm thinking he would have got it already...so maybe its a good idea to give it away/sell.

[Darla_G]

i think the advice given is good. ahh the collective wisdom of MuT! (better than a 90 year old grandmother)

obviously its not about the money he's bitter about the relationship breakup although it sounds like he was primarily responsible. I sense you've moved on.

[pinksugar]

well he was fine until now. I'm guessing his friends were encouraging him... like guys do!

I thought we were doing well as friends but now I'm thinking, ugh, just want to offload his stuff and cut off all contact.

[Ashley]

I actually wouldn't give him the link the auction, because that won't do anything but possibly incite another argument. However, I would let him know you are selling it.

As for his things, just let him know that if he doesn't pick it up within two weeks, you will donate it as it is taking up room.

[pinksugar]

well now he messaged me and said that he'll call at 5:30 and 'sort it out'!!

frankly if I answer at all I want to just say, You can collect your stuff next week, if it's not gone by friday i will donate it to charity, and I want nothing further to do with you. Please don't call again.