[vivelamour]

Before I start, I think this whole situation's gonna sound kinda juvenile. I'm sorry!!

Anyway, I'm totally crushing on this guy. Unfortunately, it's not official yet. He's sweet, smart, and very fun-loving. We've dated for about a month, and on March 9th, he told me he really liked me. Fast forward, Spring Break came, and he went out of state for vacation. We practically talked every day though, so that was good.

However, after Spring Break, it suddenly became different. It seems like he was able to tolerate my shyness before, but I think that's the biggest problem. I get wayyy too shy around him. I'm kinda paranoid when it comes to coming off too easy versus playing hard to get. I try to maintain a balance of both, but I've always thought doing the latter is better. And now I think that's driving him away. :\

He hasn't asked me out on exclusive dates recently. He has asked me to hang out with his friends and he let me bring some of mine. Well...one of his friends that he brought is a really flirty girl. He assures me that they're JUST friends. But, she's undoubtedly cuter than me. :[

Lastly, his Facebook statuses brought some suspicion. They referred to a girl for sure, but I doubt it was me. GAH I worry too much.

Sooo. I'm not too sure what I should do about this. People say that I should just ask him how he feels about me. I'm just afraid that it's not gonna help anything :[. He also tells me he has "alot" on his mind, though he won't tell me exactly what it is. Should I just leave it alone and see what happens? Or what do you think?

[pinksugar]

hmmm, could be that he's interested in this other girl and doesn't know how to tell you. Could be that he really does have issues on his mind and doesn't really want to discuss them.

All I can think of, is that you email him or call him, and say, look, I'll be really honest with you - I really like you, I enjoy spending time with you. I'm really shy and that's a part of who I am, but I dont want it to get in the way of anything that might be between us. I just wanted to let you know that I am interested in you. I hope you are too, but if you're not it'd be great if you could be upfront so everything is out in the open.

frankly, I'm always upfront about how i feel. If I like someone, i tell them. I hate that awkwardness

I hope everything works out chicken! best of luck and keep us updated! I hope I helped a bit!

[Carolyn]

I agree with Pink Sugar completly.

And remember, always believe a man's actions over his words.
If they are the same, he's telling the truth.
If his actions are not the same as his words, he's not telling the truth.

Best of luck hun.

[S. Lisa Smith]

Very good advice! It could be that he wants to slow things down, he may have things going on in his life that are distracting him, you won't know unless you ask. But as Carolyn said, actions are key!

[vivelamour]

Well me and my bro were hanging out with him today. It turns out that he had feelings for the other girl. She rejected him harshly though. It really sucks. I feel really bad for him. And I can't help but feel that if I weren't so shy, he and I could have been. :[

He knows that there are some complications in my life, and he wants me to tell him about it. But I don't think I should. :\