[southcitybabe]

Been seeing someone since Jan, and Im thinking of ending it.
My past relationships have been bad and i always end up hurt, so Im just worried really that Im going to end up falling for this guy and getting hurt again cus he doesnt feel the same way. I dunno what to do, My friends reckon its silly to end it.
Everything hes said/done says he wants me but I just dont know, with the amount of liars and users ive had in the past, The more time I spend with him the more I like him and when we're not together we both miss eachother, but I just dont know what to do/say.
Can anyone give some advice on what I should do.

[Saja]

IF you end it cuz your scared it will go bad, youll keep repeating that pattern. And youll end up alone. If you dont take risks, youll get nowheres.

[love2482]

The best advice, love like you've never been hurt.

[bia910]

i too have have had similar experiences in the past and i know it can be scary. for now all i suggest you do is take it slow. also ask him what he eventually wants, a relationship, or just a fling.. you get my point. communicate. basically be up front about what you want and tell him that you don't wanna play any games. If he doesn't want the same thing as you then i don't think you should waste your time. But find out first. good luck!

[Adrienne]

Just stick with him. You'll never know what can happen and to be left in doubt is worse than being hurt.

[flowerb0mb]

Good advice from everyone so far. I would say, don't end it with this guy just because of what has happened with other guys in the past (unless there are negative signs that would lead you to believe he is not worth it). If you let your fear of being hurt get in the way, you won't be able to realize what your true feelings are.

Best of luck!

[GlossyAbby]

there are some good guys still out there....I say let it play out... You don't want to end it now nad always wonder what could have been.....

[jdepp_84]

Honestly, I dont think you should end it. Who knows, he might be different. Of course you dont want to be hurt, but honestly, that is a risk you take with every relatinship, family. boyfriends, friends...all you now he might be the one I mean, I had real bad relatinships before, but my guy....well I think I might have found him.

[Carolyn]

I wouldn't end this relationship. But if you aren't sure, perhaps don't see him as often, so you can sort out your feelings.

Have you every talked to a councellor about your past relationships?
They might be able to help you understand why you pick the partners that you do, and what you can do now to ensure you cn break the cycle of unhealthy relationships.

[S. Lisa Smith]

Take the advice given by your MUT friends and your friends at home. Don't give up on the relationship because your past relationships have ended badly.

[TOOFACED]

oh hun don't give up,maybe he's the right one for you,don't let the idiots in the past ruin your future,stay strong hun! <3

[Aquilah]

If he hasn't given you any reason to doubt the relationship, I'd leave it be. I was so scared things were going TOO perfectly with John, I was almost looking for ways to sabotage our relationship. Luckily, he knew what I was up to (coming from a lot of hurt I was), and he stuck by me. We broke up a few times due to stupidity, but we're hitting our 4 year wedding anniversary this month.

I honestly recommend just following the course of the relationship. The last thing you want is to end the one relationship that might be "The One," and just repeating the vicious cycle of being hurt and winding up alone (as Saja said). And like love2482 said, "Love like you've never been hurt!"

[TOOFACED]

totally agree with aquilah

[Heuchera]

Whenever we've experienced a hurt, we tend to overreact in new situations. What you must ask yourself is, "Am I reacting to the past or the present?"

Take your time and give your present situation a chance. Sounds like your fear of getting hurt is standing in the way of nurturing what could be a very nice relationship.

Perhaps it would be helpful to explain your concerns to your significant other. If he really cares, he'll stand by you as you work out your problems.