[ForeverPink]

Do any of you guys have problems trusting.

Im with (who seems to be) a fantastic, trustworthy guy at present. I am pregnant with his baby and am so happy but................

I have trusting issues because 'every single' man Ive ever had a long term relationship with his been unfaithful or abusive.

I try to not get 'too close' to my present partner for fear of things happening again. And I know they may not and I possibly have found 'the one' but its this subcontious thing that just wont let me.

Added to this he is a women's hairdresser and obviously has a huge degree of contact with other women, this makes me edge a little further away.

Sometimes I ask him questions which if I didnt would just make me expload about if he would do anything. And he gets quite offended and says I need to trust him. But all of them said that.

Id appreciate any views, life stories you have on this subject.

[bia910]

i know what you mean. it's like everything is going great so far but then you think we'll everything was going great with so and so and yet i ended up being hurt. Im sorry i can't give you any advice but just know your not alone, and alot of other women feel the same way as you.

[beaglette]

I understand that your situation is a bit different than merely trusting him in a romantic relationship since your pregnant with his child.

And, I assure you, I have had my issues with trust in relationships and in emotionally abusive relationships (never been physically abused).

The first thing to keep in mind that is sometimes difficult when you've been in an abusive relationship is that you ARE worthy of being loved PROPERLY.

Then try and think about this rationally (easier said than done . . . what are your options here? :

1. Trust and possibly be hurt.
2. Not trust and be miserable worrying.

With option #2, you are guaranteed to be miserable. With option #1, it's possible you might be miserable but there's also a good chance you won't be!

I know that I've really broken it down into simplistic terms that are void of emotion however, you obviously aren't happy right now because you are asking for advice (which is PERFECTLY a-ok!) So, try something different! Go out on a limb, put it all out there, watch for signs of possible abuse and let him know you are worthy of his love and 100% dedication!

Best of luck with your pregnancy and with your relationship. I know times like this can be stressful-- I will keep you in my thoughts!

Warmly,

Brandi