[brewgrl]

Would be okay with that? Let's start younger first... Would you be okay if your child lived the same life you lived in high school? as a young adult? Now?

I have mixed feelings. I was relatively good as a teenager... on the surface... but lived a pretty crazy life, once I learned how to sneak out of the house...

I went to college, had excellent friends, and interesting jobs, but didn't travel to any of the places i dreamt about.

I guess I would be okay if Maverick lived my life, but I know I would be thinking the same things my mother used to say to me- you could be so much more, if you could see past right now.

[kdmakeuparts]

Wow....what a loaded question. But a good one!
I have mixed feelings too. If the end result is to have the happy life that I do, than sure I'd like them to be like me.
But I would prefer they take a different route to get there!
I want my Daughter to be smarter than I am, book smart, I did not have the opportunity to go to college so that is one way I DONT want her to be like me.
I do want my Son to be just like his Daddy!

[Darla_G]

I try and tell my kids about the good things and the bad. They have to make their own path, but hopefully they can learn from my mistakes as long as I don't try and force any decisions on them. (2 teens)

[Lia]

I wouldn't like them to have the same childhood i had - when i was a kid, i was very lonely and teased at school. But on the other hand, i think my teenager/semi-adult (LOL) years aren't that bad.

[Carolyn]

My son has a good relationship with his dad and step mom. And he and I can talk about anything. He is in grade 9. Other than not doing homework/assignments, he is a great kid. He is very likable and has lots of friends. If my son keeps up the good work, he'll be in college by the time he is 19.

When I grew up, I had a crappy relationship with my family due to their alcoholism, abuse and constantly wanting to move.
When I was a teen, I didn't have a lot of friends and I partied way too much. And I was truant as well. Consequently, it took me a few years to smarten up before I went to college at 21.

[GlossyAbby]

I wouldn't mind if mine ended up like me...I would hope they wouldn't be as crazy as I was in my college days though........

[Karren_Hutton]

I wouldn't wish my crazy life ..... lives... on anyone including my son!! Kids have enough problems these days without having to deal with my special hobby... lol

[|<33]

Wow. I don't have kids but the mere thought is some damn good birth control!!!

[linda_marie_606]

I hope my daughter takes more risks than I have. I don't mean stupid things like drinking too much or staying out all night. I mean trying things that she thinks might be interesting and not being afraid to fail or look foolish.

I also hope she's not afraid to put her whole self into something she loves even if she's not sure about what will happen. I know I've been too cautious and too concerned about what other people think. I hope she learns to trust herself. Of course, I hope she doesn't do anything too stupid while she's learning who she is

[S. Lisa Smith]

I always hoped that my sons would be better than me...and, for the most part they are. Except that they have my sense of humor (a troubling thing. But then, I'm just like my Dad was, a big tease and joker...so they come by it naturally).
[quote=brewgrl;1398906]Would be okay with that? Let's start younger first... Would you be okay if your child lived the same life you lived in high school? Both my sons had different experences as HS students. Both excelled, but my youngest was valdictorian... as a young adult? My oldest's college carreer was more like mine than his brother's. But also significanly different. UVA wasn't co-ed when I went there and now it is... I was a crazy man in college, luckily neither boy was as crazyas I was. But I was mentally prepared for the worst! Now? Well my eldest just got married. I hope his married life is just like mine!! My youngest, being gay, will have a different experence than either of us. Thank God that additudes concerning gays are changing! I just hope he finds a life partner and will be happy. I can imagine that it is difficult for him...

I have mixed feelings. I was relatively good as a teenager... on the surface... but lived a pretty crazy life, once I learned how to sneak out of the house...

I went to college, had excellent friends, and interesting jobs, but didn't travel to any of the places i dreamt about. My youngest is traveling all over the world for work. He travels about 100,000 miles a year. He's over it, is quitting his job (gave them 3 months notice) and is going back to grad school to become a teacher.

I guess I would be okay if Maverick lived my life, but I know I would be thinking the same things my mother used to say to me- you could be so much more, if you could see past right now. So far I'm pleased with how the boys have turned out!!!![/quote]

[Adrienne]

Oh wow, I have a son and to be honest i think I wouldn't mind him doing the same things i did until i reached high school. That's where the ball basically fell out for me. I've since then picked up the pieces and built a decent life but i worry. The most you can do is talk to your kids. I guess I wouldn't mind because I'm paying my dues and I'm doing what's right. I never drank or smoked (cigs or weed) ever. So even though i've made huge mistakes, at least i'm overall responsible enought to know that i have to pay for them.

[CellyCell]

Hm. I'm a good person with good morals. I lived a kind of difficult life though.
My sister being mentally handicapped and my mom said because of that - it forced us to not do a lot of things as a family like traveling and stuff, having issues with my father and growing up overweight - I hope my child wouldn't grow up in an environment like that but you never know. As far as me as a person - I'd be happy if he/she did. I have a lot of good friends and a pretty privileged life despite the other upsets and I don't do drugs... drink on social occasions.... yep. I'd be okay with the thought of that.

I think knowing in what they want in life a lot sooner and being more active would be better though, lol.

There's this saying that really stuck with me, "Be the man you want your daughter to marry. Be the woman you want your daughter to become."

[Ashley]

I wouldn't really want my child(ren) to be like me. I was very sheltered and shy and very dependent on certain people, and I still am in many ways. However, I had a lot of things growing up,and a very loving family, and I do wish the same for my children one day.

In high school, I didn't try very hard. In regards to schoolwork, I just did what was necessary, and I guess I still do that. I didn't like school very much, but I knew I had to do it. I kinda hope they try harder, because looking back, high school would've been a breeze, but it's something you sometimes realize only in retrospect. (But I guess it's easy to think anything would have been a breeze in retrospect)

And in college, I'm still kinda just doing whatever it takes to graduate, not really enjoying my time here. I don't really mind, but I do hope they have a good time in college.

[cheller]

no. i only want them to share a love of God & for them to know that they are loved if not by all their family, they are loved by Him. but i dont want them to have to deal with all the crap i went through. i want them to have 2 loving parents. i want them to know as a parent i am there for them. i want them to love life. i dont want them to go through the selfhating stages i went through...im concurring as we speak. i want them to be happy in their own skin. i dont want them to compare themselves to others & not feel good enough. etc.

is it possible to adopt & be single?