[lainey]

And how come we stupidly fall into these traps?

Not sure if you guys want to hear my story with my ex, it will sound like some screwed up soap opera.

But all in all...I am very happy with my love love and I guess that good people have to get tramped on sometimes to find happiness O_o

Anyhow share your stories ^_^

[NYAngel98]

A few of my ex's cheated on me... and oddly enough - it was during the GOOD times in our relationships! lol When we'd fight or have problems, nothing went on... and when I thought things were good & I didn't have anything to worry about... that's when they cheated. I always found out. I'm not a moron... lol I know 'that feeling' and when to trust it (And how to find proof - lol) But I guess that's why they are EX's!

[lainey]

So how did you find out though...?

I knew that I had NO idea until erm...the other girlfriendS contacted me!

[Liz]

not sure if i've ever been cheated on. there are 2 that are maybes. they say that they didn't but things were shady at the end. not with them anymore so it doesn't matter.

you just get to trusting them, and then they take advantage of it. i mean that's what you're supposed to do, be able to trust your "partner".

[Leony]

Had one, right in front of my eyes.

[tinypinkbubbles]

Hello all-
I'll try to keep my post short and to the point but I tend to ramble as some of you may have guessed by now. My first b/f was older than me (22 to my 17) and by that time had just got out of jail and already had 3 kids. I was so happy that someone finally liked me that I overlooked his many flaws and had believed he had changed.
We had been together about 9 months and had moved in with my mom in a tiny 1 bedroom apt. I was pregnant at the time ( I later miscarried) and he had made a new friend, a guy, who had a thing for me. At the pool one day, they met a blind woman and her roommate, who was trying to get in the army but had failed the entrance exam 3 times and who walked like a duck on acid...She wasn't pretty, had terrible acne, was not intelligent, and had fried blonde hair. I didn't think anything of it. As time went by, he was spending lots of time with his new male friend and they were going over to the blind chick's house all the time to help her. He would often come in and ask for an extra blanket, or the laundry room key. I thought nothing of it and just thought he was being helpful.
Well, his friend went to my apartment one day and told my mom what was up. She then told me that my b/f had slept with her everywhere:in the woods on top of my blanket I used to cover myself with, in the laundry room, in the pool...At first, I was like nawwww, he has better than her. But I confronted him and he admitted it after an initial denial. I forgave him, being the idiot I was. We were together for a year after that but all I kept thinking was "dirty d***". I never got to confront her though cuz she moved...I can still picture her duck walk in my head...
Okay that's my story and I hope I didn't bore anyone....

[MACGoddess]

Originally Posted by tinypinkbubbles

Hello all-
I'll try to keep my post short and to the point but I tend to ramble as some of you may have guessed by now. My first b/f was older than me (22 to my 17) and by that time had just got out of jail and already had 3 kids. I was so happy that someone finally liked me that I overlooked his many flaws and had believed he had changed.
We had been together about 9 months and had moved in with my mom in a tiny 1 bedroom apt. I was pregnant at the time ( I later miscarried) and he had made a new friend, a guy, who had a thing for me. At the pool one day, they met a blind woman and her roommate, who was trying to get in the army but had failed the entrance exam 3 times and who walked like a duck on acid...She wasn't pretty, had terrible acne, was not intelligent, and had fried blonde hair. I didn't think anything of it. As time went by, he was spending lots of time with his new male friend and they were going over to the blind chick's house all the time to help her. He would often come in and ask for an extra blanket, or the laundry room key. I thought nothing of it and just thought he was being helpful.
Well, his friend went to my apartment one day and told my mom what was up. She then told me that my b/f had slept with her everywhere:in the woods on top of my blanket I used to cover myself with, in the laundry room, in the pool...At first, I was like nawwww, he has better than her. But I confronted him and he admitted it after an initial denial. I forgave him, being the idiot I was. We were together for a year after that but all I kept thinking was "dirty d***". I never got to confront her though cuz she moved...I can still picture her duck walk in my head...
Okay that's my story and I hope I didn't bore anyone....

Ugh, that SUCKS!

I don't KNOW I have been cheated on, but the guy I dated right before Rob (the one I broke up with right after Valentine's Day) might have... There was a point in the middle of our relationship that he went a little wonky and we went on a break for about a month, that I am pretty sure something happened with an ex of his...

[Sirvinya]

My first serious boyfriend got my best friend pregnant 2 months before we split up. I only found out when they started seeing eachother and found out she was 4 months pregnant when we had only split up 2 months earlier. Needless to say it was a long time before I spoke to either again.

[SqueeKee]

My husband was my first serious boyfriend, so I didn't have a chance to get cheated on. Not that my husband's the only person I've been with, I'm just a big believer in not wasting time, effort, commitment or energy on a man or woman who won't give that back.

[SqueeKee]

Originally Posted by Naturally

Marriage does NOT prevent cheating unfortunately!

oh, I think you misunderstood. I didn't say that it did. I just said that before I was married I wasn't in a commited relationship with anyone and therefore could not have been cheated on in the past.

[Jennifer]

awwww, i'm sorry about the ones who were cheated on

my last boyfriend, one i was with for 2.5 years, still won't admit he cheated, yet i know for a fact he did, but then i guess i don't know for a fact until he admits it. i never caught him, never had trouble with girls, etc., but i have a feeling because he was just a jerk overall.

lainey, go ahead and tell us!

becky, YOUR BEST FRIEND?! that must've been HORRIBLE. god. it's so hard trusting people these days.

[Maja]

I was cheated on by my first boyfriend too. He cheated on me with my friend who was also his cousin's girlfriend. I broke up with him immediately.

I guess a lot of us got cheated on....

[lainey]

My ex cheated on me with at least 3-4 other girls.

Apparently he was stupid enough to show one of his girlfriends my personal website (which had a blog), saying that I was his friend and how proud he was that I did so many things.

Curiousity got the best of her and she started reading my blog. She noticed I kept talking about my bf, which odd enough was the same name as her bf. She confronted him but he told her it was a coincidence. After that she kept on reading my blog and then kept on interrogating him.
Then he dumped her saying that trust was essential for a relationship.

She ended up blaming herself and wished she should have trusted him more.

Then her best friend got my e-mail from my website, and e-mailed me. He asked for my bf's last name..and I didn't tell because this was some weird stranger online asking me! I asked why, because he said he is suspicious about something with my best friend. He then told me his last name and address.

Then she spilled that she got dumped and that he was two timing us.

I talked to her for a LONG time on the phone in shock. She told me that she thought it was true love and gave her virginity away to him in two months >_< I told her that I was with him for 1.5 years and untouched. She told me that I was his longest relationship...."what a waste of time" I said =p

Later on we found out about another little rich girl, who ended up being bulimic because of him. It was an online relationship, and she often came to Toronto to visit him. She even helped pay for his school. After she discovered that he was cheating on her with another girl (who I don't know who it is at all O_O), she dumped him. He never paid her back, and she went to a therapist and was erm..unstable for quite some time O_O

A few weeks later after dumping him, another girl sent me an e-mail. She sounded confused. She stole my e-mail address from his e-mail inbox (she snooped when he was away I suppose). She questioned me and I explained to her everything. I "knew" her as I saw pics of her and was told that she was his childhood friend....yeah right -_- The girl was devastated, but quite polite.

Anyhow, I cried ONE evening over him and after that never shedded another tear for him I figure he's not worth anymore time to waste.

I realized afterwards that any girl he mentioned as a "friend" was probably his girlfriend. I'm not sure how many girlfriends he had while with me. And it seems like he had sex with every single one of them O_o

Though a few months after the breakup, one of the girls e-mailed me saying that she was dating a guy, and wanted to ensure it wasn't the same guy I was dating since he was too good to be true LOL! She had a lot of trust issues when heading back into relationships (I did too, but I think anyone would).

Btw, my friends did some research, and he was on lavalife, those "am i hot?" rating websites, and lots of dating services. omg.

Now...how did I not notice this? We lived about 40-60 minutes away from each other and I was an engineer at the time. So I only saw him once every 1-2 weeks. And I was a trusting soul -_-

And a year later I received a letter begging for me back. LOL LOL O man, I threw it away after reading it.

But happy ending...I'm very happy with my honey (over 1 year ^_^), and there's a lot of trust Bells of marriage will ring in a few years

He must have gotten away with cheating for quite some time before me. I lost him quite a few girlfriends =p Though revenge was in mind, I didn't want to dwell on the past. I was not angry with him then and now, it just isn't my nature I suppose.