[wendy29]

OMG!!!
I had NO idea how hard to plan a wedding. And the worst thing is its MY wedding!!
I am going nuts now. so many things to plan. and so much money to spend...
I dont even know what kind of wedding i want to have...
every time i check websites like theknot.com, bridals.com, I just get lost..
Too many things to choose and I am def. panicing!!
Ladies, who got married or will getting married, plz tell me how you plan your wedding to be perfact!!

[MindySue]

as long as you have plenty of time you should be fine..when is the wedding?

[wendy29]

Originally Posted by MindySue

as long as you have plenty of time you should be fine..when is the wedding?

That is the biggest problem. My parents want me to have wedding as soon as possible.. I dont know why..I want to have plenty of time to plan and relax at the same time.
So we are thinking of spring or fall 2008.
I dont want to hire any wedding planner to spend extra money. Wedding is expensive as well..

[Marisol]

Originally Posted by wendy29

That is the biggest problem. My parents want me to have wedding as soon as possible.. I dont know why..

Question - isn't it your wedding?

[MissMudPie]

There is a timeline on TheKnot: The Knot - Planning Calendar: 12-Month Countdown
It looks like a good place to start. Good luck!

[wendy29]

Originally Posted by Marisol

Question - isn't it your wedding?

Well i know its my wedding. but since they pay everything it is hard to say no to them.. here is a good news tho', they agreed having a wedding in 6 months is impossible. haha I won!!!!

I just dont want to have wedding that everyone had already. U know what i mean, I want something different..
T.T There are so many things to do and i have no idea where to start, and what to do at this point.

all I did was looking for the dress, but didnt find one either.

[chantelle8686]

all i can suggest it having some simple but elegant,try a local park that has a nice backdrop!!! and u can hire gazeebos for the occassion.
look around for cheap catering.

me myself would go extravagant on the things ppl notice, like table settings etc.
I would have mine as a simple thing, nice dress etc but as for the reception lay down a nice white entrance to the priest, and have chairs either side and have flowers on the chairs on the middle and have stand around with flowers. as for the food ask ppl to bring a plate, i know that sounds like a cheap idea but u wont have to spend so much, ask ppl what they like to bring??
Hope some of these helped

[AmyLyn]

The first step, the VERY first step is decide WHAT kind of wedding you want. Small and intimate? Large and formal? Unformal? Etc. Once you do that, the rest will start to fall in place. Such as if you are going to have a small intimate wedding you wouldn't want an extravagant outrageous dress. Make sense??

[pinkbundles]

Spring 2008 is plenty of time to plan a wedding and Fall 2008 is more than enough!

My wedding was not as stressful as I thought it would be. The first thing we decided on was budget. Then we booked the venue, the photographer, videographer, church and dj as soon as we decided to set a date/budget.

Then I got my gown and he got his suit right after.

The rest was easy. And, I used TheKnot.com countdown...though some of their stuff was not really necessary.

One piece of advice: It's your wedding and so as long as your fiance is in agreement, what anyone says shouldn't matter.

[Savvy_lover]

i dun have experience but i hope u feel better !!!ppl say u should plan it a year be4. i think u should do it in your own pace wedding isnt sth u should rush to coz it causes arguement when ur under hugh pressure and uw ont be as good being pushed to do one of the biggest thingin a womans life!! but relax relax deep breath one two three!! i hope u have a spectacular wedding!!! *hugs*

[pinksugar]

my parents did their wedding in 6 months.. I wouldn't reccomend it though.

Basically, I would first think of the theme or 'feel' you want for your wedding, then plan your venue, music, dress, flowers etc around that. Have a phrase or catch word to tell your florist, dress person, dj and stuff, so they know what you want

For example, for me, I want something elegant, traditional, but also just a little bit exotic - I want a massive trailing bouquet of orchids, bird of paradise flowers... peace lilies and stuff. With that kind of bouquet, I want to have warm weather, so I'd be planning for a summer or spring wedding. I'd want a relaxed, romantic venue to match those flowers. See how everything fits together slowly? I think you need to have a clear picture of what you want the day to be like - for me, this is really strongly linked with the colours I want to use, and the feel I'd like to invoke - so I would start with flowers and work backward, but it's just as easy to start with something else.

Write a list of everything you will need, and then check them off as you go along. There are big magazines that come out with wedding planner diaries that are a good idea if you cant afford a wedding planner, or dont want to spend the extra on it

Good luck and congrats on your engagement!

[MindySue]

why do they want you to have it soon?

[kaylin_marie]

First of all BREATH!! haha.

Now get yourself a notebook of somekind and dedicate it to all your wedding plans. How organized is up to you, mines a mess but it works for me. Mine has a checklist on the front of everything that I have to get done for the whole wedding, then there is a little section for each part with all the information for that particular part. For example on the cake page I have a sketch I did of the cake, whose doing it, how much it is gonna be, the flavor of the cake and the icing, etc.

My advice is to keep it simple and have fun with it. Stressing out a whole lot trying to make everything absolutely perfect can ruin the whole experience, so have fun with it. Realize that your budget might not be big enough for every single thing you want, exactly the way you want it, so be lenient with certain things. I personally don't love outdoor weddings, but if you like them then they can be a lot cheaper. Think of people you know, your family, friends of the family etc. Do you know anyone who makes cakes? Anyone who could sew linens/chaircovers? Any florists? Someone who can do your hair and makeup really well for free? A chef or good cook who might offer to help with the menu? There are lots and lots of ways to save money by thinking of people you or your family knows that might help you out. As for a theme or overall feel of the wedding, you can always take the season and also the time of day into consideration. For a spring/summer daytime wedding I like bright gardenesque fruity colors, or pastel colors with light fabrics and girly spring flowers. For fall/winter or evening wedding I like jeweltones like wine, gold, and navy and more luxurious flowing fabrics and roses, even candles. You can find TONS of ideas for wedding favors online. You can order them or make your own. I haven't decided what i'm doing yet. You can also find ideas for what you want thrown at you when you exit like flowers, rose petals, bird seed, bubbles, butterflies, glitter, streamers, sheer scarves, whatever you want.

Anyway I'm getting way too carried away, I could talk about this all night. My main advice is keep it simple, have fun planning it, and make it fun for everyone. One thing I really want for my wedding is to remember everyone having a lot of fun. I don't want my wedding to be a bunch of people just going b/c they have to and just waiting for it to be over. I want it to be a party for everyone! Anyway I could have typed for another 3 hours about wedding planning, so if you have any questions or want advice or tips on this kinda thing, just pm me I'll be glad to help.

[MindySue]

great advice ^