[Becka]

Well, today I’m wearing some new jeans, yep, they sit pretty low, are tight in the butt and I’m wearing a kangaroo jacket and bright blue eyeshadow. Am I wearing the same stuff gals 15 years younger than me are: YES !! I should really post pics of what I’m wearing. Anywhoo, when should we stop dressing like this? I saw a show on Oprah last year about what is appropriate to wear after 35 and 40, and I just didn’t agree with almost all of the advice given out on that episode at all. Earlier I thought by 34 I’d be in baggy pants wearing Laura Ashley, clearly I was completely wrong. I do NOT want to be one of THOSE women though who dress way too young for their own good, but I’m concerned that I might be already pushing the envelope a bit … know what I mean???

[Little_Lisa]

I think you should wear whatever you feel good in and makes ya happy. I'm almost 30 but I still shop in the little girl's section.

[Brootsiesmom]

As long as you look good in what you wear, that's all that matters.

[Amethyst]

As long as it fits well (not like wearing something 2 sizes too small) go for it!

Last summer I was wearing those hippie skirts with tank tops when it was 90 degrees outside and damn, I'm in my 40's! I'm not huge, but I'm not a stick either.

[monniej]

Originally Posted by Becka

I just didn’t agree with almost all of the advice given out on that episode at all. Earlier I thought by 34 I’d be in baggy pants wearing Laura Ashley, clearly I was completely wrong. I do NOT want to be one of THOSE women though who dress way too young for their own good, but I’m concerned that I might be already pushing the envelope a bit … know what I mean???

i'm so with you on this one becka, but i keep buying the low rise jeans and to christie fit pants! i buy them because they look good on me!! i'm sure at some point i'll stop, but that day ain't today! lmao i'm 47 and i spend alot of time keeping myself together so i can wear what the 20somethings wear. i do draw the line at mini skirts though, but i'll work a tight pencil skirt in a heartbeat! the people that judge probablly wish they could wear what you wear! work it as long as you can cause it ain't over until the fat lady sings!!!!

[dentaldee]

I think as long as you don't look old and your not "trying" to look too young... anything goes. Going over board in ayway, including fashion is just not right no matter who you are or how old you are!!

[Becka]

Thanks gals, I feel better. I dunno where this thing suddenly came from, where I started wondering whats appropriate for my age ... maybe just a phase I'm going through. I still feel I can really pull off everything I wear, so I'll keep it up . I was smart enough to give up mini skirts a few years ago, so thats a good sign

[Nicolet]

I'm kind of wearing something similar today..low rise jeans, metallic belt and a cropped black jacket with fur trim. I'm almost 38, and I just wear what feels comfortable. I see a few moms at my kid's schools with their high-waisted jeans and their baggy sweatshirts, and it's not for me. I'll wear casual stuff, but I won't go frumpy!!

[peekaboo]

Wear whatever makes you most comfortable! I love my low rise jeans and pants because they fit me the best(not azz crack low-but low lol). I saw that Oprah show-and I disagreed with alot of the advice too. I just wear what works with my body and not worry about too much! I am sure you look great Becka!

[mintesa]

i agree, as long as it fits and as long as you are happy. i dress like my mood all the time. and it makes me happy.
and jeans, jeans are always fine
my mother in law is 65 for example. and she just dresses stylish my age 25. she looks good in it. one difference is that i wear little quilts mini skirts, but she doesnt but she wears jeans like me and nice blouses(small ones like a body hug, not those grandma blouses) and she just looks good in it. the skirts she wears are those black above the knee fitting(dont know how you call this).
i like what she wears for 65, i dont get it when grannies really wanna dress like grannies, you know huge blouses, dull colors. i like colorfull grannies (oh men im so sleepy i think im writting bull)

so i guess... as long as you look good in it, wear what you want be happy and yourself.

[SqueeKee]

I think you should wear whatever you feel happy in, Becka.

I'm only 22 but I just recently stopped wearing shirts that show my belly because I just don't feel 'comfortable' dressing like that anymore. When summer hits that might be a different story though

[eightthirty]

Whatever you feel good in! I have the same trouble especially around mothers of my son's friends (age 6). I feel like I need to be wearing colored capris (I even bought them and tried it) and button up sleeveless collared plaid shirts to match with matching sandals. There's nothing wrong with that, but it's not me. I'm just a bit more sporty/casual than mommy/business casual type stuff. They dont' judge me for that at all!!

Wardrobes are a constant struggle as styles are ever-changing. That alone is alot to deal with so I can understand age/role appropriate struggles. At the end, what you have to remember is that you only live once.

[girl_geek]

Wear what you feel comfortable in within reason .... I don't know if you ever watch TLC's "What Not To Wear", but what they've proven in several episodes is that if you dress too young, it actually makes you look older, because there's an obvious contrast between your age and the age your clothes are designed for! But if you dress in sexy, properly-fitting clothes for your age, then you will look younger! You can certainly dress appropriate for your age without being a fuddy-duddy -- things like mid-rise jeans, any sort of fitted sweater or button-up shirt, fitted blazers, lacy camis underneath sweaters and blazers to add some sex appeal, fun accessories .... you can also play with fun colors to give some more pizzaz to your wardrobe! But I don't think most clothes in the Juniors Section are really appropriate for adults -- I am 24 (almost 25) and I occasionally shop in Juniors because I'm too skinny to find many clothes that fit in the Misses section, but I feel too old to wear most of those clothes! Something is wrong when a 13-year-old eight-grader is shopping in the same section as a 25-year-old career woman! I think all I've bought in the Juniors lately is a few basic dress pants and basic solid-colored sweaters because the rest just looks way too silly or sexy for me! (I also believe you don't have to let everything hang out to be sexy, all those skimpy tanktops in the Juniors section in the summer gross me out! I feel my sexiest in a shirt in which I can still wear a bra under -- I want to show off my figure while still leaving a bit to the imagination!)

And don't get me started on low-rise jeans, I have never liked them -- they only look good on stick-thin figures, and even then I hate seeing underwear (or even worse, butt crack!) sticking out the top of the jeans when you sit down! I think everyone should wear mid-rise jeans (about an inch or so below the belly button) because they are the most flattering for almost every figure! Low-rise pants often create tummy rolls or rolls around the hips and backs above the waist of the pants (I am a size 4 and even I have tummy rolls in low-rise pants!), while high-waisted pants create tummy rolls below the waist of the pants. Mid-rise sit right in the middle, minimizing and hiding any rolls! OK I will get off my soapbox now.....

My main point is, you can still dress sexy and trendy without dressing like a teenager though! But I always have been a bit on the conservative side ... I still like to be trendy and modern (you'll never catch me in decade-old styles or a baggy sweatshirt outside the house!), but I still avoid the craziest and sexiest styles!

PS: What is a "kangaroo jacket"? I must be more out of it than I realized...

[Maja]

I think you can wear whatever you like at any age, as long as it is not vulgar, it fits (not too small and not too big), it's not torn or dirty and you feel good in it.

The trick is to wear clothes that fit your body, not your age.