This really shouldn't get to me

tuna_fish · 08-08-2008, 10:35 PM

Okay. My ex-roommate and friend lives in So-Cal. She flew up today for a friends wedding, and asked if we could get together on Sunday. I said sure; brunch would work. Everyone was all excited.

Then she texts me (just now) and asks if another person can come; someone I don't like. I know him, I just really find him annoying and would rather not hang out with him. On the other hand, Roommate adores him.

So. I don't know. I'm definitely going to wait until tomorrow to text her back with an answer, but ugh. I'm just annoyed. What should I say? I don't want her to not be able to see him (we're all back for school in a month, anyway), but I don't want to see him.

***pinksugar*** · 08-08-2008, 10:49 PM

I would say something like 'oh, I thought it could be a girly thing

' or something like that - a reasonable explanation for why you want to exclude him, without it being too personal, lol

tuna_fish · 08-08-2008, 10:53 PM

Its tough; when they're together, I'm a third wheel. I would normally just push it aside and say yes, but when I do that, I'm ALWAYS regretful of it. Maybe I should just stand up for myself. I will offer to do something else with her that day, so that they have time to hang out. See if we can do it separately. If not, she'll at least know that its not my favorite idea, but I'll do it (and probably excuse myself early).

***Bec688*** · 08-08-2008, 11:29 PM

I agree with Rosie, something cute and along those lines, it gets the point across without being rude.

***kcam125*** · 08-09-2008, 03:43 AM

just say that you wanna spend some QT with her...

***emily_3383*** · 08-09-2008, 09:26 AM

I think I would just let her go with the guy. I dont want to tell her not to go with him. Idk I like to do what I can in order not to hang out with someone I know will make it a terrible time.

***Dragonfly*** · 08-09-2008, 10:03 AM

One way to comprimise is ask if you can meet her an hour before the other person shows up. This way, you can see her alone and then excuse yourself later if things get uncomfortable.

Or you can always be honest and explain that you don't like her friend. If she knows this, she might be willing to see the two of you separately.

***S. Lisa Smith*** · 08-10-2008, 08:08 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Carolyn

One way to comprimise is ask if you can meet her an hour before the other person shows up. This way, you can see her alone and then excuse yourself later if things get uncomfortable.

Or you can always be honest and explain that you don't like her friend. If she knows this, she might be willing to see the two of you separately.

Excellent advice!!