[pinksugar]

Since the bf and I broke up, I am wondering what to do with all the expensive items that I have that are him-related.

Obviously, most of the jewellery is still wearable and fine, so that's ok, but the ring he got me, which is GORGEOUS just seems so inappropriate. If I wear it when I'm single, people will assume I'm either engaged, married or in a serious relationship. And if I wear it when I'm with someone new? totally weird and random!

but I don't want to never wear it because it's gorgeous.

But, there are many other things which are also expensive, but completely unsellable.

I have a LOT of studio portraits of us hanging around my bedroom that were really expensive. If i take them down, the empty space will remind me how much money I spent on them that feels kind of wasted.

I can't sell them since obviously no one would want them... so what to do with them? I can barely stand to take them down because of the empty space that would be there. It's like by not removing them I don't have to think about it.

Also, there is my necklace from egypt - it has his name in hieroglyphs on one side, and mine on the other. What to do there? have his name chiselled off??! it's obviously impossible to get a replacement here.

so - I'm left with (absolute minimum list)
- over $2000 (australian) worth of photos - some canvases, some framed, etc etc.
- diamond ring
- necklace with his name on one side (although since it's not in english I guess it's only significant to me, no one would know)
- apparently thousands of partnerless socks that willum drags out from underneath the bed

What would you do with them? since most things were EXPENSIVE it seems so wasteful to just throw them away.

[Modirty80]

I there a chance that you guys will get back together? Did you just break up recently?

[pinksugar]

well, he asked and I reccently said no.

It is unlikely that we will.

[magneticheart]

I don't really know what to suggest 'cos I've never been in your situation before.
I don't think you could do anything about the photos because as you said you can't really sell them. Unfortunatley I think the only solution is to get rid of them and if you don't want to look at the empty space you could take pictures of you and your friends and put them up in their place so when you look at where the pictures used to be your still happy because theres new pictures there to look at.
You could keep the necklace because like you said no one would know the significance but if you don't really want to hang onto it you could sell it to a pawn broker or sell it to one of those places that pays you for your gold items then melts it down and makes it into something else then sells it to someone.
Does the ring only fit on your wedding finger? Because if it doesn't you could wear it on your middle finger or if it only fits on your wedding finger you could wear it on the same finger on your right hand. If it gets to the point where you don't want to keep it you could sell that as well and use the money to buy yourself another ring or something else.
As for the socks you could always make sock puppets I guess lol
I don't really have many suggestions but I hope I helped and that you sort everything out in the end

[pinksugar]

lol thank you for your suggestions!

I just feel kind of stupid for really thinking it was going to last... for spending so much money on it. I just hope that I won't be really scarred by that and never want to spend on any future partners for those reasons. I can't regret what I did but, god, I do feel foolish

[Dragonfly]

I would not give rid of anything, but I would pack everything up in boxes, and store them in a closet. One day, you will have a better idea if you want to keep anything, or not.

In terms of jewelry, when I went through a divorce I didn't wear my engagement ring for the longest time. I'd say I had it in a small box in my dresser for a few years.
One day, I took it out and had a good look - it was beautiful and I realized I had denied myself one of the nicer things I have. Since then, I wear it on my right hand - I don't even associate it with the marriage anymore.

Sorry for the rambling Rosie, hope I have helped.

[pinksugar]

most definitely. Not rambling at all

[Adrienne]

Originally Posted by Carolyn

I would not give rid of anything, but I would pack everything up in boxes, and store them in a closet. One day, you will have a better idea if you want to keep anything, or not.

In terms of jewelry, when I went through a divorce I didn't wear my engagement ring for the longest time. I'd say I had it in a small box in my dresser for a few years.
One day, I took it out and had a good look - it was beautiful and I realized I had denied myself one of the nicer things I have. Since then, I wear it on my right hand - I don't even associate it with the marriage anymore.

Sorry for the rambling Rosie, hope I have helped.

I agree. I have always thrown out any of my exes stuff but now years later i truly regret not holdin on to any of it.now that i can actually appreciate all the small things and look back at it with fond memories and not missing them hurting. theyd have no real love value to me, just fun memories

[beaglette]

I'm with Carolyn-- wonderful advice!

Warmly,

Brandi

[S. Lisa Smith]

I'm with Carolyn and beaglette!

[kdmakeuparts]

Keep the personal stuff, pictures and stuff, but take them down. Sell the jewelry and buy new artwork to hang in place of the pictures!

[GlossyAbby]

I would throw the photos away and I would get that diamond ring made into a hot new necklace or ring

[Johnnie]

Ebay. You'd be surprised at what people will buy.

[Miss Monster]

i was with my ex for almost 8 years, and still have a good bit of things that he gave me or were his. i still wear t-shirts he left here from time to time. i've got a beautiful opal ring and earrings he gave me for christmas one year, but i don't wear them. we had some great times together, and altho it ended badly and there is NO chance of us ever getting back together, i still like to look at pictures or pick up a shirt and get a smile because it's attached to a memory from a good time.

i found that packing things up and putting them out of sight for a while helped. i really think i would have regretted getting rid of things.

[daer0n]

Here are some good tips on what to do with stuff like that Rosie, i thought they were good tips anyways, so i hope they help