[pinksugar]

you know when you talk to an ex, and then he tells you all these horrible things and some of them are true and so you feel kind of glum, but you couldn't stop talking to him since you're totally curious about what kind of random trash he'll say next?

well I just did that and now I feel like an idiot. It turns out that the ex was told a whole lot of stuff by his best friend's girlfriend about me. (that I supposedly told her when I was drunk on New Years Eve). And instead of confronting me, he assumed it was true, and in revenge, was horrible to me for 5 months while I worked myself to the bone trying to make it work.

I can't believe he actually said 'you deserved hell after what you did'. (He didn't tell me what it was, and so obviously I have no idea what he's talking about).

And one one level it's funny cos its like, I'm so glad I'm not with you any more you sadistic ba$tard but then it makes me sad that he didn't even bother to confirm with me whether it was true, or even to accuse me would have been better.

And I'm sad that I was stupid enough to tell her things. Or that something that was really good got screwed over because he didn't communicate with me.

BTW, girls, I know you wont be nasty to me so it kind of doesn't count, but am I a high maintenance ***** who ****s up every relationship thinking I'm perfect and who wont ever get a relationship to work because of that? and who doesn't live in the real world?

Sigh. He said I havent learnt anything at all and I'm an idiot, but am I really so naive and stupid because I try to see the best in people? he claims he slept with heaps of girls following the alleged incident which is why we werent sleeping together. He could have said that just to hurt me, or maybe it's true.. but am I the one who should feel ashamed because I loved and trusted him?

None of this really upset me, I'm not but seriously, it makes you think was that whole time a lie? and was I way too nice, putting up with his crap?

Lol, this doesnt make any sense so I'm not really looking for advice. Just a hug. Or a billion!

[Duchess Ravenwaves]

Don't feel bad Rosie, you didn't do anything wrong.

[RnBqueen]

He didnt deserve you. You shouldnt feel bad about what happened. If he cant talk to you about something like that then he wasnt a good communicator at all. Communication is key in every relationship. Just be happy about the fact that you got rid of him. =]

[Anthea]

Rosie,
I have read a lot of what you have written, and in my eyes, you are a very kind and caring person. Don't listen to that rubbish he is saying, it looks like he is only trying to hurt you.

I am not sure if he is involved with your circle of friends, if he is it will be difficult to avoid him, but if he is not, it might be best to avoid contact if possible so you can move on to much better and brighter things

Lotsa Hugs Rosie

[Tracigirl]

Pink, in my non-professional opinion, you need to stop beating yourself up. Though I only know what I've read on the board here, you are very caring and bright, and certainly attractive. Put him behind you as much as you can. The next chapter of your life is going to be awesome, girl! Make it so!

huggggs

[internetchick]

You are way too good for him. He's probably just being a giant ass to save face. It's a reflection on him and his poor character, not a thing about you.

[Karren]

Wow!!! What a jerk!! He needs a serious ass kickin!!

[Dragonfly]

To begin with, how do you know that his best friend's girlfriend told him anything? Because he said so?
The reality is, he probably dragged her into the conversation because he knew it would either piss you off or it would take the responsibility away from him. A win-win for him.

Rosie, you are a very sweet girl that deserves the best - please stay away from this jerk as nothing positive ever comes from being around him.

And do not compromise your standards because this loser tries to lay blame on you and
tries to undermine your confidence.

Big hugs honey

[Adrienne]

What a pr*ck. Obviously you're better off without him and since when is trying to see the best in someone a bad thing!? Millions of hugs from me!

This video might make you feel better

[CellyCell]

I don't see you coming off like you want everything perfect. I do see you as wanting to be friends with everyone though, very friendly and too nice.

Guys say things they don't mean in order to just get a reaction from you. I got the same sh*t from mines when we got into arguments after it ended, claiming he messed with a lot of girls. Where they true? He said he made them up all but one he already told me about JUST to get a reaction from me. Wtf?

I was just made my trust was taken advantage of and you are justified in that too. Especially that skanky girl who ratted you out.

A billion hugs for you <3

[magneticheart]

From reading your posts I think you're a very nice person who doesn't deserve to be subjected to this crap flinging he's doing to save face in front of people and make himself feel better.
Don't let him get you down! He's totally not worth it!
Hugs!!

[daer0n]

I'll resume it to one word for him, no wait two: F'ing bastard!
You should have told him this:

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This is for you Rosie



And lots of coffee Luv too!





P.S.

[pinksugar]

awww, thanks ladies! you always make me feel better

Adrienne, that video is from my city! I walk through there every day! (I guess it's too cold for free hugs at the moment, I haven't seen them around in a while!)

I get the feeling that this guy is not quite in his right mind - I think for safety I'll just avoid him altogether, even when I'm so tempted to see what random stuff he comes up with! It's one of those stupid things that you do, and then think, why did I listen to this?!

[Annia]

Rosie, you're a great person. (btw, your ex just proved that he's an idiot and lost someone great.)

Lots of hugs!