[speerrituall1]

Just plant one on him and see what happens. Sounds as if he's been burned and is a little timid.

[Darla_G]

Originally Posted by judithf

Hello! Thanks for reading this. I need an honest opinion...

I have feelings for one of my closest guy friends, and I was pretty sure he liked me too.
We flirt relentlessly, to the point where the rest of our friends think we're together or atleast should be. They say we're like an Old Married Couple, LOL! There's also A LOT of sexual innuendo.

Now a bit of info on him.
He's 41, never married and still single. Needless to say, he's jaded. He's been in love twice in his life and it has never worked out (the girl he wanted to marry, cheated on him..this was 10 yrs ago). So yea, he's damaged.

Anyway, he once called me "intimidating" refering to why it took him so long to hug me goodbye. And when he hugs me now, or puts his arm around me he does it in a way that makes me feel like he isnt sure if Im ok with it. (When there's physical contact I get really nervous and I blush..I cant help it).

One night we were drinking together and we fed eachother, we cuddled on the couch, he grabbed my butt and he called his cats "our cats"

Ok so, a few nights ago I confessed my feelings.
When I told him that I was thinking of telling him by giving him a kiss he said, "You know, I would've kissed you back. If you want you can catch me off guard one day and I'll kiss you back."
And then when we were talking about all the sexual innuendo he said, "Im just joking around, but its still serious...I mean I do think about it."

So anyway, in the end we hugged goodbye and have remained friends. I told him I just had to confess my feelings so I could move on. I dont want our friendship to change. He said he felt the same way.

What do you guys think is going on???

i have an expression , no one says something that they don't mean at least a little bit. I think someone else alluded to this as well that he might be somewhat gun shy about another relationship like he's going to be hurt or something. Go with your instinct on this. just report back on how it goes.