[Obreathemykiss]

I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you. The ex thing is always something I hate! My boyfriend and I have been through it all with the ex coming back thing and its never pretty. She used to call and text him...and one day, I looked at his phone bill and there was $70 in overage text charges. I was fuming. I was hurt. I demanded an answer and he never really told me much besides she just needs someone. I was like well go find someone else to cry to because you are mine! I let it go and about 6 months later, to my surprise, more texts. I was really devastated at this point. To this day, he has said nothing ever happened, they never met up or anything...but my gosh, if I found out, that's it. It's over. I couldn't handle him kissing or eating lunch with her or whatever. That just isn't fair. If I were you, I would seriously consider giving him another chance. He must still have feelings for her if he was willing to keep a secret from you-otherwise he would have told you upfront. I am actually impressed she wrote you about this, but at the same time, she should know better than to step on that turf. Keep your head up. Remember, thinking with your head over your heart will get you farther. I wish you the best of luck. Those damn exes!

[puncturedskirt]

That's a tough one. I guess it's comes down to whether or not you have complete trust in him, Usually if you're confronting someone about cheating though most likely they're going to lie if they did infact cheat.. but i agree with what some of the others said, just confront him about it with the girl and see what happens from there.

[Dianergy]

Good luck, I really hope things work out for you.

[Killah Kitty]

I have my fingers all crossed for you. I am a sucker too, Ive given my BF over 2 chances lol Ive lost count now, but some stuff we had to let it slide, because I was not perfect either.

Anyway I hope it all goes well for you! Those damn exes I agree too, why cant some women understand?! He left you, its over, MOVE ON! If your going to be so immature about it, someone needs a restraining order, or if they both havent moved on, then they deserve no better and should be stuck in their own misery! I know thats harsh but I really hate when exs act this way its so immature, it isnt right, and the new person in the picture shouldnt have to deal with the old baggage and drama. Your BF really needs to see that life has moved on and changed now and he is much better off with you right.

I hope things change for the better and that he puts that damn ex behind him. Sometimes guys just dont see whats right in front of their eyes. I know it sounds dumb but it never hurts to try revitalize the relationship after something like this happens. Go out on a couple dates again, go do something romantic, make a bigger effort (on his part and yours) to do little meaningful things for each other, just to bring all that love back. Just some ideas from me lol that worked for us...

Keep us updated!

[laurreenn]

i'm sorry that this happened. i think you handled it very maturely and very appropriately. please let us know how it goes with your boyfriend.

[ticki]

what do they say? once a cheater always a cheater. i say dump him on his ass, but i respect your decision. go phones and easy anon e-mail accounts are a dime a dozen nowadays... hope he doesn't do anything to hurt you more. =(

[x33cupcake]

good luck sweetie. please keep us updated with how it turns out.

[CellyCell]

Ah boo, my love. Well - I can see why you would take him back but omg, the trust on him must be shaky, eh? Hopefully, this won't cause issues in the future. Personally, I think it's too much work to stress over another person and think "wonder what he's doing now and with whom"... I really don't think of the worst until it happens, after that - paranoia city, here I come.

So, you're really strong for this and good luck on it all!

[ColdDayInHell]

Originally Posted by ticki

once a cheater always a cheater. i say dump him on his ass, but i respect your decision.

You took the words out of my mouth!

I've been cheated on before and I dumped him as soon as I found out. I just cut him out completely from my life without even bothering to tell him he was out of my life. And I moved on.

I know it seems harsh but I cannot afford to have toxic people like that in my life to cause me so much pain and suffering and affect my mental health.

I'm really sorry you've been treated that way and I hope you find a solution that works best for you. After all, the only person looking out for your personal happiness is yourself, and it certainly isn't your boyfriend or he wouldn't have treated you like that.

Take care!

[LittleMissLilo]

Originally Posted by ticki

what do they say? once a cheater always a cheater. i say dump him on his ass, but i respect your decision. go phones and easy anon e-mail accounts are a dime a dozen nowadays... hope he doesn't do anything to hurt you more. =(

Although that statement could be true, i tend to disagree. I think bad people can be turned good if they try! Maybe its just me having some hope for the future and what not. I hate how my parents raised me to see the good in people. Ugh.

But keep your fingers crossed for me! =]

Originally Posted by Obreathemykiss

I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you. The ex thing is always something I hate! My boyfriend and I have been through it all with the ex coming back thing and its never pretty. She used to call and text him...and one day, I looked at his phone bill and there was $70 in overage text charges. I was fuming. I was hurt. I demanded an answer and he never really told me much besides she just needs someone. I was like well go find someone else to cry to because you are mine! I let it go and about 6 months later, to my surprise, more texts. I was really devastated at this point. To this day, he has said nothing ever happened, they never met up or anything...but my gosh, if I found out, that's it. It's over. I couldn't handle him kissing or eating lunch with her or whatever. That just isn't fair. If I were you, I would seriously consider giving him another chance. He must still have feelings for her if he was willing to keep a secret from you-otherwise he would have told you upfront. I am actually impressed she wrote you about this, but at the same time, she should know better than to step on that turf. Keep your head up. Remember, thinking with your head over your heart will get you farther. I wish you the best of luck. Those damn exes!

Thank you! I will certainly keep those wise words in mind. I always think with my head over my heart. =] I know if it continues I'll have to let go, I already know that. And that will ultimately be my decision if it comes down to that. For now, I guess I just have to see where this is all going! =[ *shrugs

[AprilRayne]

I'm so sorry that you're going through this, Nathalie! You don't deserve it. I hope things get better for you and you can work it out! Ex's can be major B!tches huh!! LOL Keep us posted!