At what age did you start having children? - Page 2

I have two children. My husband and I were married at 26 and 25, respectively. We were blessed with our son when I was 28, and our daughter a month after I turned 30. For us this was the "right" time. We got to spend 4 years as a child free couple, then progressed together as parents. I feel blessed as I was told, due to medical issues I may never have children. Three months after I accepted that we would be childless, I became pregnant!
I knew at a young age that I wanted to be a mother. My sister on the other hand decided at a young age to never have children. Though I would love to be an auntie, I respect her decision. Being a parent is the most frightening and beautiful experience in this world. There is no "right" time to have children, as you only have so much control in the process. Choosing to be a good parent is the only thing within your control.

My friend had a baby at 19!!! I think its too too young to take any responsibility!!!

I think at a certain point, it's less about age and more about how prepared you are; having a kid in your late 20's when you're studying to get your MD is totally different from being a stay-at-home mom in her late 20's with a kid. I knew a girl whose mom had her in med school, so she was raised by her grandparents most of her childhood.

I'm 28 and still like a child myself, I don't feel prepared to take on a lifetime responsibility for another human being just yet.

I just got my Master's and now we're trying to save up money for a house downpayment. I want my child[ren] to have everything they need for a healthy life and right now I just can't afford that.

This is a normal feeling for a caring parent so don't think it strange that you feel that way. It is alright to plan and get the basics ready before you make babies but if you want to get everything ready...you might never have any children. If you settle, have a home to stay happily and can provide food for the table, you can start and save gradually as you go along for the rest.

Halle Berry was 41.

 

 

A response that usually shuts people up when they start nagging about when you're going to have kids is "Whenever God decides to bless us."  Doesn't matter if you're trying or not.

Had my first one at 24 and my last one at 29. I have 3 natural children and one that was a gift package that came with my hub, so I'm a mom to 4...plus my hub... and dachshund... and guinea pig... and a plecostamus.

Truth is I always thought I would have kids by now- I'm 34. I've been with my husband for 7.5 years and he's amazing & I love him so much. We're both so busy with work and furthering our careers that it really has never been "the time". The more I think about it, I think it's never " the time" & that its probably just one of those things that you work your life around. I'm at the point where now I see what having kids involves and I'm thinking its not what I want in life. I hope I don't regret my decision. I work for a family business and when I get home I'm exhausted - the last thing I really want to do is be up all night taking of a child. The older we get I think the more selfish we get....

I had my two boys at 25 and 27.  It has worked out perfectly for us, as I was able to finish up my education right after I got pregnant with my first (it was a surprise, lol!).  I'm always weird about numbers, so when I figured out that I'd turn 30 right when my oldest started kindergarten (and my youngest started preschool) at 5 and 3, and I'd turn 40 right when I got two teenagers at 15 and 13, I thought that was so cool!  Due to all the financial craziness, I got an IUD right after my second son was born, and my hubby and I are now trying to decide if we want one more, or just want to call it quits with the boys.  I seriously want a daughter, but I just know if I get preggo again it'll be another boy!  

 

I agree with what some of the others have said, that having a baby is much more about maturity and financial readiness than any numerical age.  I know some people who have been excellent parents at 19, and some people in their 40s that should never have kids!  Find someone stable to raise your children with, and have kids when YOU'RE ready, not when someone else tells you to.

Hubby and I started trying when I was 18 but didn't happen for us till I was 24 or so but with the help of IVF though.

I had my daughter a month before my 20th Bday. If I had a stable relationship and some financial stability I would have like to have another one then and be done but life had other plans. After 11 years as a single parent I met my now husband, we eventually married and had our son 9 months later. By then I was in my mid 30's and wasnt having anymore! Even now I sometimes wonder if I left it too late - Im in my 40's and dont have the patience I wish for a busy almost 10 year old.

 

Im glad my daughter, who's 24 and married this last summer, is waiting. She wants more schooling and to purchase their first home first. Her time line is to TTC by age 29 and be done in a couple years. Although Im interested in grandbabies Im happy shes wanting the stable family base I wasnt able to give her.

24 yrs old.

There really is no right or wrong answer to the question "what age should you be when you have kids?" It is a very personal decision that only you will know. I had my first when I was 21 & have had another every two years since then. I'm now 31 years old & am having my 6th (& final) little one in May. People think I'm crazy & certainly aren't afraid to tell me how they feel about someone having 6 kids so young, but I feel like if you are ready & capable, there is no greater blessing in this world than a precious little one looking up into you eyes telling you how much they love you.

I had my first at 19. I was in a stable relationship, we were married and financially secure. My daughter is 3.5 now, and today her father and I celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary, and we're currently expecting our second daughter (like ANY time now, I was due last Saturday). 

 

There's definitely no "right" or "wrong" time that's universal for everyone. I am absolutely, positively certain that I was ready to have my daughter when I did. Some people aren't ready until they're significantly older, and that's great too. It's such a personal decision.

I agree completely, perfect response!

 

I'm 26 and I just had my first three months ago (omg, three months already!) and I'm already revved up to get number two cooking.

I had my first child when I was 20~ Then 23 and then 30!!!!  If I could do it over again, I would wait until I was older!  At least done with college!  Also, I would also wait to have sex until I was married.  I had two of my children out of wedlock.  My first one and my last one!  Talk about a stressful time!  Don't let love lead you into situations that you are not prepared for!  Boy was I not prepared!  LOL!!!  But thank God I am married now!  :)

Congrats!  

Hi, I was 21 when I first got pregnant and had my son at 22. I'm glad I did, I loved being a young mom. Even though I was young I don't think I was too young. I had so much fun, I think by still maturing made it more fun for me that and him being a good baby. I think it all depends on the person and how their life is going. I knew I was ready because of all of the feelings I was having before I got pregnant.

Hi, I was 21 when I first got pregnant and had my son at 22. I'm glad I did, I loved being a young mom. Even though I was young I don't think I was too young. I had so much fun, I think by still maturing made it more fun for me that and him being a good baby. I think it all depends on the person and how their life is going. I knew I was ready because of all of the feelings I was having before I got pregnant.