Congratulations!
When I got married 19 years ago, this is what we needed to spend money on:
Wedding announcements and stationary
Justice of the peace - we got married at the court house
Professional photographer
Venue/hall to eat and dance
supplies and flowers to decorate
Food for guests
Alcohol for guests
Wedding rings and engagement ring
His new suit and tie
My dress, shoes and accessories
**my brides maid already had a dress so no cost there
gifts for her and best man
Hair styles for her and me.
Honeymoon - we drove to Niagara Falls/Toronto
hotels, meals, souvenirs - for five days
As you can see, this is a pretty basic list. I probably missed a few things on it.
My wedding probably cost no more than 8,000
My advice is to look at where you want to spend the most money
- might be your dress, venue, food, photography, cake, flowers
Go to halls, caterers, wedding dress stores and ask for quotes
Sit down with the groom and see how much you will hypothetically spend.
If you have 10,000 left, then price the smaller stuff.
See if you can get some things done free, to save money
- a friend does your hair, as an example
How we saved:
The justice of the peace was $50, I had silk flowers and my mom made the bouquets and centre pieces, my husband knew caligraphy so he did all the invitations by hand.
And we had a "fake' center piece cake, that he did as well.
His uncle did our pictures as a gift.
The venue let us use their sound system - we played swing jazz/Glen Miller kind of music
We bought a case of wine back from Quebec, instead of having the venue's wine with the open bar.
And we had a cheapie honey instead of flying somewhere.
I think that 30,000 will get you a very nice wedding
Just remember not to sweat the small things
Let people help you out:
Assign an individual task to each family member - mom helps with the florist, sister helps with the cake, etc
They will enjoy helping you and you still get to keep control of your wedding.
Hope this helps