So this is pretty superficial but it's been an annoyance for a while and I thought I'd post for ideas on the best way to handle it (I feel awkward starting threads). I met this gentleman during my internship in Korea and I visit Korea regularly now. On my recent stay back in Canada it had been a couple months since I'd been in Korea and he hadn't contacted me. I was a little disappointed because I enjoyed his company. But even in Korea he was flaky about staying in contact so I shrugged it off. He contacted me again out the blue. I asked him why and he said "I thought about you a lot but I couldn't contact you before". So we talked for a while and he flirted with me and sent me pictures and asked for my pictures. And he kept telling me to come back to Korea. Now he's flaking again. And it's annoying. I don't want to be straight up rude but how do I tell him to either make his intentions clear or stop messing around with me? He's the one who said "let's talk often!" this time around and he's the one bailing. Not sure what he means with his words and actions. Also: I'm not keen on dating him fyi. I have a boyfriend of three years and this fellow knows.