I've read everything and thanks girls. Meagan's post especially resonated with me. Liked that joke about the presidents
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[email protected] 2x" width="20" height="20" /> Before I t hought it's not wo rth wearing makeup or having nice hair because I only see myself a few times a day in the mirror. But that's a good point when you said I am a person so why should I not count?
It is disappointing not to be admired and looked at and wanted but hey what can you do
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More advice from another old crone :lol: .......
How do you know you're not admired and looked at and wanted? You don't know what's going on in other people's heads.
I think that this is more a problem of mindset than makeup. Self-confident people are attractive. People want to be around confident people. I don't mean arrogant, or "I'm so gorgeous"......just content with yourself.
When you're feeling down about yourself (nobody wants me so why bother), you don't smile much, your shoulders slump, your posture sinks, and the whole effect just sends off signals of 'go away' to people. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You can be pushing people away without even realizing it.
That's one reason that I don't go out of the house without feeling good about how I look. And that doesn't necessarily mean I've spent an hour on my hair and makeup and am wearing a dress and heels. It might be just jeans and a t-shirt and a little foundation and a touch of lipstick. I need to look in the mirror and say OK, I look nice.
And that's true even if I don't go out of the house. I work at home most days, so the only people I might see are the mailman and maybe a repairman. Every morning, I put makeup on, because *I* want to look nice. Not because I particularly care what the mailman thinks, but just for me.
I used to not bother with makeup at all when I was working at home. Heck, some days I'd skip the shower. I found it was really affecting my mood. Now I shower every day and get dressed and put on makeup. Yeah, I wear much more comfortable clothes than I would if I were going into the office, but at least I make the effort. Much better.
And besides, you never know when or where you'll meet someone really...interesting. I met a super-nice, super-cute guy when I found him under my kitchen sink fixing a leak. Awesome.
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[email protected] 2x" width="20" height="20" /> I was really glad that I put on makeup that day. :lol: