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Hi everyone, well this is more of a rant. I have some family coming over to visit from another country. Don't get me wrong, I like them, they are real nice. The only thing is that they critize everyone, not about what they don't or do have, but rather what they look like. If you are a bit overweight, they will make you know it!
In high school I was 111 lbs, I was in shape and everything. But during college I got a super bad case of the stomach flu and I gained about 30 to 40 pounds. Last time I went to visit them, they kept telling me how fat I was and how ugly I was for gaining so much weight. Its been hard, but I have learned to love my body and I think im not fat, I think im average and I get attention from boys and stuff like that. But I know they are just going to make me hate myself again like they did last time that I visited them. Gosh, last time I had one freaken zit on my face and they made this huge deal about it! IT wasen't in private either, it was in a restaurant, I felt so bad I just got up and left and started to cry. I mean, its fine if they feel like they need to make comments on my appearance on how to improve myself and I am all for constructive critism, but they go beyond that are just plain mean. What made things worse that one time, was that instead of my mom telling me that I shouldn't listen to them or that I was okay even with that zit on my face she said that I was making such a big deal about it. I knew she was going to sa that, she always gets on their side and joins in with the mean comments. She has always been like that, even though she's older than them (my ungle is her little brother) she never stands up to him in anything, she's such a follower, even though she knows she's hurting people by joining in, she still keps doing it cuz she dosen't want to be an "outsider" to them. What makes me more mad is that she blames me for them making them comments or reacting the way I do. She says that If i haden't gained the weight, then they wouldne't be making fun of me, but I look normal and average! Is there anything wrong with not looking super skinny, I mean I can run and do all kinds of things, its not like im unhealthy or can't go up the stairs or something. Just remembeing that one time and all the other moments makes me cry.
The sick thing about everything is that they have these 2 chilren and they are nice, but the thing is that they are only 15 and like 13 and they are all obsessed about counting calories and their weight! Gosh, they are only children! Once the 13 year old gained like 2 pounds and my uncle had him go to the gym and work out for a whole straight week until he lost that weight! Just 2 freaken lbs!!!!
I just don't know what to do, they are going to stay with me for a whole month
and I just know my weight and my zit is going to come up in every conversation.
In high school I was 111 lbs, I was in shape and everything. But during college I got a super bad case of the stomach flu and I gained about 30 to 40 pounds. Last time I went to visit them, they kept telling me how fat I was and how ugly I was for gaining so much weight. Its been hard, but I have learned to love my body and I think im not fat, I think im average and I get attention from boys and stuff like that. But I know they are just going to make me hate myself again like they did last time that I visited them. Gosh, last time I had one freaken zit on my face and they made this huge deal about it! IT wasen't in private either, it was in a restaurant, I felt so bad I just got up and left and started to cry. I mean, its fine if they feel like they need to make comments on my appearance on how to improve myself and I am all for constructive critism, but they go beyond that are just plain mean. What made things worse that one time, was that instead of my mom telling me that I shouldn't listen to them or that I was okay even with that zit on my face she said that I was making such a big deal about it. I knew she was going to sa that, she always gets on their side and joins in with the mean comments. She has always been like that, even though she's older than them (my ungle is her little brother) she never stands up to him in anything, she's such a follower, even though she knows she's hurting people by joining in, she still keps doing it cuz she dosen't want to be an "outsider" to them. What makes me more mad is that she blames me for them making them comments or reacting the way I do. She says that If i haden't gained the weight, then they wouldne't be making fun of me, but I look normal and average! Is there anything wrong with not looking super skinny, I mean I can run and do all kinds of things, its not like im unhealthy or can't go up the stairs or something. Just remembeing that one time and all the other moments makes me cry.
The sick thing about everything is that they have these 2 chilren and they are nice, but the thing is that they are only 15 and like 13 and they are all obsessed about counting calories and their weight! Gosh, they are only children! Once the 13 year old gained like 2 pounds and my uncle had him go to the gym and work out for a whole straight week until he lost that weight! Just 2 freaken lbs!!!!
I just don't know what to do, they are going to stay with me for a whole month