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[makeupjunkie00]

Hey guys!

I need your advice on something. There's this guy and sometimes i think he notices me. And other times he doesn't. Anyway, we used to talk, um 2 years ago. Not much, but a little. We stopped talking because he told me he was goiong out with someone. I told him we could be friends, I'm not sure if he wanted that or not. So, we haven't talked since. I don't know if it's because i never went up to him and talked to him. But that's not the point. I think he's talking to another girl, but i still want to go up to him and talk to him. The funniest thing happened, though. He was sitting with this girl and i'll admit i was looking at them. He turned around and saw me! I thought, why does he care if i look at them? You know. MAybe he was trying to make me jealous, i don't know.

When i say talking, I mean not going out, just talking. Hard to explain! I want to go and talk to him, because i keep thinking about it. MAybe after i do , i can stop thinking about it soooo much. SO, any ideas on what i should do? Forget about him? sorry so long!!

 

[S. Lisa Smith]

I read your post and went to dinner hoping that someone would offer you some good advice. Since no one has, I will try. The answer is contained in your comment. You want to talk to him, so why not talk to him next time you see him. One of two things will happen: MAGIC and you click or nothing and your desire to talk to him will go away. Good luck!

 

[KellyB]

I agree. Sometimes you just have to take a chance. what's the worst that could happen. At this point nothing is happening so it really cant get much worse. Just talk to him and dont play games. its the easiest way to find out. good luck!

 

[Anthea]

Lisa & Kelly has some good advise, go up and talk when he is not otherwise occupied and see what happens.

 

[speedy]

I agree, you have nothing to loose by talking to him and seeing what happens.

 

[puncturedskirt]

Even if he's with someone and you want to be 'friends'...I don't see any harm in talking?.

 

[makeupjunkie00]

Thanks, for everyone's great advice. I saw him today with his girlfriend (i think). Um, so i don't know if i should talk to him. I want to be friends, but i don't know if he wants to. He seems pretty happy with his girlfiend. it's not like we would have worked out. He likes to party,drink. i'm not into that kind of stuff. so, maybe it's better if i say a quick hi to him if i see him in the hall. I don't want his girlfriend to see me talking to him, and get mad. Not saying she will, but most girls are like that? Anyway, if i do see him and say hi, i don't think he'll say anything. What have i got to lose right? And maybe my desire to talk to him, will go away? i just haven't talked to him since the begining of my sophomore year. so, he'll probably think it's kind of strange, but so what!!! Does that you all think that's a good idea? if it's not please tell me!!! Thanks for all of your answers!!!!

 

[CuTeLiCiOuS]

Originally Posted by speedy /img/forum/go_quote.gif I agree, you have nothing to loose by talking to him and seeing what happens. Ditto, Ask him if he is single? And then ask him out. What is the worse he can do is say no.

 

[asianada]

I personally think you should work on your self esteem and self confidence. Guys can't resist a lady that is mentally strong. You sound like a great catch and if you worked on this I think you would have to hire a bodyguard cuz guys will just flock all over you.

Trust me I use to think just like you did and I noticed that guys only hovered confident chicks and that's when I realized I had to change the way I think. Works like a charm!!

 

[colormeup]

Originally Posted by asianada /img/forum/go_quote.gif Guys can't resist a lady that is mentally strong. What heck does mentally strong meam?

 

[makeupjunkie00]

Thanks, guys! Great answers! Asianada, i really never thought of it that way. I realy do want to be confident!!! You're right, i have to change the way i think. But i need your help on something else. You see, he does like to drink and party. I don't think he'll want someone that does not like to do that. And anyway, i pretty sure he already has a girlfriend. But I'll definately work on my self-esteem and try to be confident!!! Thanks Asianada, and everyone!! keep posting your great advice!!:

 

[jakk-attakk]

Originally Posted by colormeup /img/forum/go_quote.gif What heck does mentally strong meam? not insane? lol
i think just talk to him it doesnt have to be a big deal just say hey and ask how his weekend was or how he is or something. its not like hes gonna shout at you to leave him alone just cos you said hi.

 

[glitter_vertigo]

There's nothing wrong with talking, hon, go for it.

 

[makeupjunkie00]

Thanks, everyone! I saw him on Friday at school, and he i think he saw me.

I'm not sure. Anyway, he came into the school and went up to his girlfriend. She was waiting for him. I just think he wants me to get jealous or something. Which is weird because he hasn't talked to me for a long time. In between classes, i see him and he isn't even with his girlfriend. But then, i was walking with some friends, and i turn around. There he is with her. What is the deal? Do you know what i mean? I don't know. I've been thinking of talking to him. Just anything really. U know just to see what he says. I don't even know if he wants to talk, to me. But i am going to try to be confident, like Asianada says. BE like, you see what u could have had? Loser! LOL!

Any comments would be great!!! Thanks!

 

[justdragmedown]

Just go up and say hi if he is in one of your classes maybe ask him if he understood this part of the homework or if you miss something in notes ask to copy his.

 

[makeupjunkie00]

That's a good idea, but i don't have him in any of my classes. I guess i'll just go up to him and say hi. see what happens. I just get nervous, afraid that he'll be like what is she doing talking to me now? You know, but i'll get up my nerve and talk to him. If anyone has any ideas on how to get over my nerves, i will gladly appreciate it! I just hope his girlfriend doesn't get mad or anything. lol! keep those great ideas coming!!! Thanks!!!

 

[Sheikah]

I agree you just have to go and talk to him. That's the only way to figure out the answers to your questions. Meanwhile my advice would be to really think about his behavior and be certain that it's not normal. When I was in school I had a crush who's behavior I dissected in every way possible and kept getting "hints" that he liked me.

It turned out that wasn't even close to being true and I was just taking every little detail and making it a big deal.

I don't really think that the fact that he's not with his girlfriend every second means anything, but the only sure way to know if there's something going on is talking to him. Try something really casual as has already been said. You have nothing to lose. Let us know how it turns out! HTH

 

[makeupjunkie00]

Thanks Sheikah. Maybe i am making a big deal about nothing. he probably doesn't even like me. Duh! he has a girlfriend. Uh! Anyway, i know i can't like him anymore, so why do i? I don't know. I was thinking of just saying hi to him, but he hasn't been in school. This is so weird, because he's my neighbor! and i never see him much,so i can't talk to him. I really don't want 2 like him anymore. Please help!!!

 

[magosienne]

forget about his gf, forget about what he might like or not. you won't know what he wants unless you make the first step, so take a deep breath and go talk to him. he's your neighbor, maybe just go say hi ! i'm your neighbour, and chat a bit on the doorstep.

 

[makeupjunkie00]

Magosienne, thanks for your advice! I really wish it was that easy. I do want to talk to him just 2 see what's up. i think he knows who i am. We talked a little in the summer when i was a freshman. But now i'm a junior! time really does fly! but anyway, he hasn't been in school, for me to talk to him. I think he might have dropped out or something. I don't know why though, because he's already a senior. Just 4 months of school left, i don't see why he can't just stay in school! lol! I don't like to admit it, but i still like him. I really want to take your advice, but i'm too scared! Help! But thanks again for your advice!!!