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I think i have a jealousy problem, or maybe this is natural?
this is the first time i have ever had a long term boyfriend. i have always kept a distance when i dated guys before and i never wanted to get too close too fast because I am always of getting hurt.
For my current relationship, i let all my inhibitions go, and commited myself to him. however, everytime he hangs out with one of his sexy female friends (who has a thing for him, and he knows it) i get really jealous! i know he reassures me that they are 'just friends' but i can't help but wonder, then why still be friends with her if you KNOW that she likes you for more than a friend right? or guys don't really care, as long as nothing is going on, he can just enjoy the attention?
i also get bothered when he checks out other girls, so during the summer i lost some weight and i THOUGHT i had gained some confidence, hopeing that he wouldn't be checking out other girls AS MUCH.
however, after a few weeks, it all goes back to the same routine, him checking out other girls. i feel ashamed for feeling so unesassarily jealous and to ruminate on such pointless things.
i tried to make him see my point of view, but he has never ever been jealous! not even when a stranger on the street asked me for my number when i was waiting for my bf to pick me up! that's why i feel such a moron for being so jealous like this.
any way to get rid of this jealousy? is the natural or healthy? i have never been jealous of my previous short term boyfriends, so i have no idea to what extent is normal!
we have talked about it before, he knows i get jealous, and although he apologizes, i still feel insecure because he has alot of female friends who dress provocatively. need help getting rid of this stupid emotion! i feel so immature about this!
this is the first time i have ever had a long term boyfriend. i have always kept a distance when i dated guys before and i never wanted to get too close too fast because I am always of getting hurt.
For my current relationship, i let all my inhibitions go, and commited myself to him. however, everytime he hangs out with one of his sexy female friends (who has a thing for him, and he knows it) i get really jealous! i know he reassures me that they are 'just friends' but i can't help but wonder, then why still be friends with her if you KNOW that she likes you for more than a friend right? or guys don't really care, as long as nothing is going on, he can just enjoy the attention?
i also get bothered when he checks out other girls, so during the summer i lost some weight and i THOUGHT i had gained some confidence, hopeing that he wouldn't be checking out other girls AS MUCH.
however, after a few weeks, it all goes back to the same routine, him checking out other girls. i feel ashamed for feeling so unesassarily jealous and to ruminate on such pointless things.
i tried to make him see my point of view, but he has never ever been jealous! not even when a stranger on the street asked me for my number when i was waiting for my bf to pick me up! that's why i feel such a moron for being so jealous like this.
any way to get rid of this jealousy? is the natural or healthy? i have never been jealous of my previous short term boyfriends, so i have no idea to what extent is normal!
we have talked about it before, he knows i get jealous, and although he apologizes, i still feel insecure because he has alot of female friends who dress provocatively. need help getting rid of this stupid emotion! i feel so immature about this!