Originally Posted by
Aprill849 /img/forum/go_quote.gif .......I didnt think it was hard at all Actually... it is. There are more hoops to jump through, and you gotta wait a couple years if you didn't go via the foster home route first. Most people don't go via the foster home route so there is where the difficulty (impatience) comes in.
Only click here if you have no problem reading about the less savory side of American adoptions.
Also, for the most part, the highest "commodity" are healthy white babies which are more difficult to come by. A person could wait for
years for that kind of child. Unfortunately, the harder to place babies are black babies, and more specifically black baby boys (yikes!
). I know it's controversial but that's what it is. It makes "sense" that they will not jump through all those hoops and wait two years for a baby that they might desire less, but they will jump at the chance to get a non-white baby
now from an international location for the exoticism factor. It makes them feel good to be "saving" a little bit of the world.
I'm not trying to demonize anybody one bit, but in the order of speaking, couples usually want a reflection of themselves. When they cannot get that, they will go for the next best thing, a baby from abroad. I have a good friend of mine and her husband that tried to adopt from Russia for a white child who would look more like them, but that fell through. So they are trying for a Chinese child next. She was very frank with me about adopting a non-white child overseas versus a non-white child here in the US.... "people will not ask so many intruding questions or treat us badly if they knew we saved a child from a horrible life overseas. We would be doing a good thing for the world's children". And I quote it verbatim. I hope this sheds a little more understanding on the issue. You don't have to agree, but just understand.