Negative Parents

[ForeverPink]

I am so upset today.

I dont know if any of you have read my previous thread on my current pregnancy/medical, Country problems but.

On top of all the stress of that and being nervous about my first pregnancy. My parents are being so negative about everything. So sad, so gloomy, absolutely nothing positive coming out of their mouths at all. They are not being nasty just looking on the negative side of everything and today its really got to me. I just told them about an e-mail I had from an organisation who helps with complaints and they agreed that I have to have some kind of medical care in my own Country. My Dad just came back with "oh but that wont work because you are not a UK National now" - he doenst even know this, he is just guessing and he is wrong!

Then I flipped and when he went out I said to mum I am sick and tired of me trying everyday and all I come up against is negative comments. Her reply was "well its hard to be happy at all with all the stress" - what on earth does she think I feel like.

I just feel like telling them to pxxxxx off and Ill go back to Turkey, have the baby there and sod England. Excuse my language. I just need a hug from my partner and for him to tell me everything is ok but at the moment he is in Turkey.

I just cant stop the tear rolling down my face today. Ive just had enough. The only positive words I have had from anybody is from this website, and one single best friend I have. Nobody has said to me congrats, or talked nice things about the baby. Just that I need to do this, I need to do that, Ive done that wrong, that wont work. Even a few nice positive words would keep me going. Its not my fault my parents have not much money and they are not happy with their achievements in life. Now they are trying to drag me down too it seems

 

[KellyB]

I'm very sorry that you are not getting the support that you need. I was single and pregnant at 20 and it's not what my mother envisioned for me, ya know? Give them time. They are as shocked as you were and you do have added stress. In the end you have to do what is best for you and your child.

 

[mmonroemaniac]

thats such a bad situation to be in. and not what you need right now. you need to tell your parents that there upsetting you. easier said than done, i know. were always here for you. and your partner is too. all that matters is that you and your partner are ready for this baby when it comes and you can do your best.

 

[pinksugar]

until everyone gets used to the idea you have to be the voice of calm and reason in this situation, which I know must seem really difficult...

take all the words of encouragement and support that you find here with you everywhere you go, and remember that there are people who are thinking about you and hoping everything will work out.

take some deep breaths and just tell your parents that if they don't have anything nice to say, then you don't want to hear it. Good luck!