My sweetheart & I were watching tv on Sunday & an ad for extreme makeovers came on...his comment to the screen was "you think you're ugly because that's what you say." We have what we say, & when we listen to so much worldly opinion on what a perception of beauty is, to the exclusion of inner beauty, we do ourselves a lot of unnecessary pain & suffering. With as many body issues as I've had & overcome over the years, that simple observation made more sense than all the self-help books I've ever read. We don't look at a dog & expect it to look different or behave other than it can, or an infant or an injured person...yet our choice to say 'this or that is ugly' really talks more about who we are than the object of our opinion.