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Yesterday I found out I will need two surgeries. My elbow and wrist, both on the same arm.
In the past I have posted about my parents how they are abusive, unsupportive etc. Anyways I try little as possible to communicate with them. Yesterday I spoke to them and mentioned I will be having surgery sometime this autumn. They both said "That's nice, but you will be on your own, were not helping you out while you recover!" In hindsight I shouldn't have mentioned it because I wouldn't have to listen to their comments.
A year and half ago I had surgery on the same arm, stayed with my parents, it was my worst nightmare. They just nagged at me constantly which didn't help with the recovery process. I had a problem with my drainage tube last year and my dad was all snarly about helping me empty it. That's just part of it.
I really don't want their help anyways because of their attitude but at the same it hurts.
I am grown woman who is capable of helping herself, I've been doing it for years. I guess sometimes you still need your parents but I also know they will never change.
I'm also feeling very angry at my exbf. My surgeries are due to him, his past abuse. I'm moving forward emotionally but physically I am left with my arm problem etc.
I know once I have the surgery it will help erase the physical pain, help me move forward. I just feel so angry at him for what he's done!
In the past I have posted about my parents how they are abusive, unsupportive etc. Anyways I try little as possible to communicate with them. Yesterday I spoke to them and mentioned I will be having surgery sometime this autumn. They both said "That's nice, but you will be on your own, were not helping you out while you recover!" In hindsight I shouldn't have mentioned it because I wouldn't have to listen to their comments.
A year and half ago I had surgery on the same arm, stayed with my parents, it was my worst nightmare. They just nagged at me constantly which didn't help with the recovery process. I had a problem with my drainage tube last year and my dad was all snarly about helping me empty it. That's just part of it.
I really don't want their help anyways because of their attitude but at the same it hurts.
I am grown woman who is capable of helping herself, I've been doing it for years. I guess sometimes you still need your parents but I also know they will never change.
I'm also feeling very angry at my exbf. My surgeries are due to him, his past abuse. I'm moving forward emotionally but physically I am left with my arm problem etc.
I know once I have the surgery it will help erase the physical pain, help me move forward. I just feel so angry at him for what he's done!