The simplest is sometimes the hardest to accept...we try to change, control, manipulate...it's hard to give up control when our entire culture is based on being in control, controlling others, etc. We feel helpless, defeated, useless, worthless & pointless when we can't make a difference in others lives. Ultimately, you've gotta know that you, just as you are, make a difference. If I never meet you in person, who you are on-line, with me, has encouraged me to keep going in areas far different from this arena? How? Well, for one thing, it takes courage to ask for help, offer it, support others & laugh at the whole thing, not sarcastically but realistically. You've got it GirlFriend. Hugs.