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May 12, 2004
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I thought this was important enough to share with my MUT buddies:

This is important information for females of ALL ages.

Guys - please forward to the female members of your family and all

your female friends and associates.

When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady

friends. I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends

have female friends and this information is too important to miss someone.

Please pass it along.

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison

were interviewed on what they look for in a potential

victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential

victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go

after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other

hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also

likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with

short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing.

They will look for women who's clothing is easy to

remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around

specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell

phone, searching through their purse or doing other

activities while walking because they are off guard

and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the

early morning, between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted

from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. Number

two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is

public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are

looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to

another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because

rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a

weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all,

they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to

realize that going after you isn't

worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,

or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

Keys are not a deterrent because you have to

get really close to the attacker to use them as a

weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're

not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us

are: If someone is following behind you on a street or

in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell,

look them in the face and ask them a question, like

what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't

believe it is so cold out here", "we're in for a bad

winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify

them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out

your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK

! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd

leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she

would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are

looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this

instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it

with him wherever he goes,) yell "I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY"

and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them

with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you

are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the

attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and

armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh - VERY VERY HARD.

One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used

the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date

rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin

and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed


Try pinching yourself in those places as hard

as you can stand it; it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the

GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate

experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is

extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger

the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the

thing these rapists told our instructor is that they

want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.

Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you,

grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far

as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The

instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my

knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still

apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take

someone with you if you can and if you see any odd

behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but

you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.



May 3, 2005
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Thanks, Kim. Scary, but important...very useful information.

Mar 7, 2005
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yeah, i've seen this before. scary stuff. thanks for sharing, kim.

May 13, 2005
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super interesting kim. thank you - this is information all women need!

Aug 13, 2005
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WOW I will definitely keep these tips in mind when I am out with my Friends Thanks Kim.

May 5, 2005
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Great thread Kim,thanks for this info ,i will be sure to reread it and have my mom and sis read it as well!!!!!!


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