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Some of you may already know this....
So my BF and I have been off and on since Freshman Year of Highschool. I come from and abusive home and my BF's parents took me in and let me live with them the last few years of school. His Mother and I are VERY close. She is basically like a Mother to me. She even calls me her daughter when she introduces me. Well after I graduated Highschool I moved away and didn't see them for many years. I still kept in touch with his Mom, sent her Mothers Day cards etc. Right now, I live about 5 minutes away from her and see her almost daily.
I found out a few weeks ago she has inoperable Lung Cancer that has spread to some lymph nodes. She began radiation and chemo this week. I have been going with her and caring for her at home. There is no one else to help, and it's the least I can do for all the love she has given me. The thing is....I have never been around someone who is ill. I have never even had someone in my family pass away. I get a little bit of anxiety thinking that something bad could happen. When I stay with her we don't talk about cancer at all. We scarpbook, gossip, watch movies etc. We never talk about the illness. We talk about how she feels, but that's it.
I guess my question is what is the best way to help someone going through this? I mean any tips at all would be amazing. I have been researching and reading....but I trust MUT members to tell me the truth.
Oh...also. My BF, her son is in denial. He won't even see her because he is afraid to see her ill. I think he is really hurting inside, but forcing himself to work to get through it all. I don't think it's healthy and his Mom really misses him. How can I get him to face it and deal with it?
Thanks everyone!!
So my BF and I have been off and on since Freshman Year of Highschool. I come from and abusive home and my BF's parents took me in and let me live with them the last few years of school. His Mother and I are VERY close. She is basically like a Mother to me. She even calls me her daughter when she introduces me. Well after I graduated Highschool I moved away and didn't see them for many years. I still kept in touch with his Mom, sent her Mothers Day cards etc. Right now, I live about 5 minutes away from her and see her almost daily.
I found out a few weeks ago she has inoperable Lung Cancer that has spread to some lymph nodes. She began radiation and chemo this week. I have been going with her and caring for her at home. There is no one else to help, and it's the least I can do for all the love she has given me. The thing is....I have never been around someone who is ill. I have never even had someone in my family pass away. I get a little bit of anxiety thinking that something bad could happen. When I stay with her we don't talk about cancer at all. We scarpbook, gossip, watch movies etc. We never talk about the illness. We talk about how she feels, but that's it.
I guess my question is what is the best way to help someone going through this? I mean any tips at all would be amazing. I have been researching and reading....but I trust MUT members to tell me the truth.
Oh...also. My BF, her son is in denial. He won't even see her because he is afraid to see her ill. I think he is really hurting inside, but forcing himself to work to get through it all. I don't think it's healthy and his Mom really misses him. How can I get him to face it and deal with it?
Thanks everyone!!