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Hello,
My husband of 5 years (12.5 years if you count when we dated) has told me he wants a divorce in early January. It totally floored me. I don't want the divorce, but we've been going through therapy and it has become increasingly clear that it's best to go through with it, for both of us. Or at least, I think so. To be honest, I don't know.
Anyway, he's sure and as far as he's concerned there's nothing I can do to change his mind.
So, since this is a makeup forum, well... maybe you can help me with my problem.
I am trying to stay positive and move forward, but I can't even see any reason to try to look attractive. I don't want to start dating, and I'm moving back in with my parents and my sister.
I am going to therapy weekly by myself now, and still going to therapy with him weekly (different therapists) but... like I said, I just am finding it really hard to work on myself. I feel like a failure because our marriage failed, and I feel like I'll never have .... what I had with him. And.... part of me is OK with that, but... I basically look like crap, eat crap (lots of junk food, since he told me) and haven't been motivated to even do my classwork after I get off work ( I work full time in addition to taking classes for my masters).
I just can't seem to discipline myself to care for myself- instead of eating right and exercising, I'm sitting around moping and stuffing my face with junk food until I'm so full I fill physically sick, like I wish I could vomit.
I am really upset about this, but I haven't told many people and I'm kind of holding it in because I'm a private person and I do not fancy the idea of my coworkers asking me ANYTHING about this. Not even, "How's everything going?" I feel like if everyone at work found out and started talking to me about it, I'd want to punch them in the face.
Basically, I started off the beginning of this year really positively, I was just coming out of my shell, and getting excited about looking more polished and being a real adult, but this has kind of wrecked that for me, wrecked my self-esteem, which has taken so long to build.
I just don't know how to stay ... inspired.
Sorry, just a rant.
My husband of 5 years (12.5 years if you count when we dated) has told me he wants a divorce in early January. It totally floored me. I don't want the divorce, but we've been going through therapy and it has become increasingly clear that it's best to go through with it, for both of us. Or at least, I think so. To be honest, I don't know.
Anyway, he's sure and as far as he's concerned there's nothing I can do to change his mind.
So, since this is a makeup forum, well... maybe you can help me with my problem.
I am trying to stay positive and move forward, but I can't even see any reason to try to look attractive. I don't want to start dating, and I'm moving back in with my parents and my sister.
I am going to therapy weekly by myself now, and still going to therapy with him weekly (different therapists) but... like I said, I just am finding it really hard to work on myself. I feel like a failure because our marriage failed, and I feel like I'll never have .... what I had with him. And.... part of me is OK with that, but... I basically look like crap, eat crap (lots of junk food, since he told me) and haven't been motivated to even do my classwork after I get off work ( I work full time in addition to taking classes for my masters).
I just can't seem to discipline myself to care for myself- instead of eating right and exercising, I'm sitting around moping and stuffing my face with junk food until I'm so full I fill physically sick, like I wish I could vomit.
I am really upset about this, but I haven't told many people and I'm kind of holding it in because I'm a private person and I do not fancy the idea of my coworkers asking me ANYTHING about this. Not even, "How's everything going?" I feel like if everyone at work found out and started talking to me about it, I'd want to punch them in the face.
Basically, I started off the beginning of this year really positively, I was just coming out of my shell, and getting excited about looking more polished and being a real adult, but this has kind of wrecked that for me, wrecked my self-esteem, which has taken so long to build.
I just don't know how to stay ... inspired.
Sorry, just a rant.