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I really like all those questions! it made me feel good to know that I knew the answers in all my relationships, for better or worse.
The only thing is... that how you treat your mother/father reflects on how you will treat your future mate. To an outside observer, it may not be obvious how much I love my father, because my relationship with my mum is overwhelmingly close. I adore my dad, but sometimes I feel bad because I just don't have the closeness I have with my mum.
The kind of relationship I have always been at pains to build with prospective partners would/has contained the same depth of love I have for my dad - but for me, communication is very important, and I just don't communicate directly with my dad - usually if it is something really important, I tell mum and she will tell him, and vice versa, despite the fact we get on really really well - if it is something we feel emotional about (for example, if he is not happy with my bf sleeping in my double bed) then he will complain to mum, who will explain how he feels. Then I would tell mum how I feel and she would pass on the result to him, or explain my point of view.
when I think about it, it's really bizare, and it certainly isn't something I would want to replicate in any of my sexual relationships
The only thing is... that how you treat your mother/father reflects on how you will treat your future mate. To an outside observer, it may not be obvious how much I love my father, because my relationship with my mum is overwhelmingly close. I adore my dad, but sometimes I feel bad because I just don't have the closeness I have with my mum.
The kind of relationship I have always been at pains to build with prospective partners would/has contained the same depth of love I have for my dad - but for me, communication is very important, and I just don't communicate directly with my dad - usually if it is something really important, I tell mum and she will tell him, and vice versa, despite the fact we get on really really well - if it is something we feel emotional about (for example, if he is not happy with my bf sleeping in my double bed) then he will complain to mum, who will explain how he feels. Then I would tell mum how I feel and she would pass on the result to him, or explain my point of view.
when I think about it, it's really bizare, and it certainly isn't something I would want to replicate in any of my sexual relationships