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Arrrgh. As some of you may have read in the secret santa thread, I'm having seasonal issues.
My mum a few days ago tripped off the bottom step of the stairs in our house and landed on her arm, dislocating her elbow. they gave her morphine and popped it back in the same night, but she still has to have an operation to remove some of the bits of shattered bone and make sure it's sitting in its socket correctly otherwise it might heal wrong and give her serious trouble later in life.
the operation we found out today, will be on tuesday (22nd). it's the only time the elbow specialist is available. we could go private, but it would cost an insane amount of money and probably wouldn't get seen any earlier. it's a quick, straightforward operation but it is under general anaesthetic so she will need a day in hospital afterward. it could be that she doesn't come out until thursday at the latest which is christmas eve, as we all know.
my mum's upset and cross with herself for doing it and that she has to miss most of the christmas preparations. my dad is still full of cold and trying to do his best to comfort her but it's not easy. me and my sister basically have to take over all the christmas jobs this year, my mum essentially has only one working arm so she can't cook dinner or hang decorations or anything.
on tuesday my boyfriend is going to come up to spend christmas with us, and my grandma (who is very old) is coming up the day before. so everything has to be done NOW.
it's a strange time. i feel worried for my mum and sad that christmas won't be the same as usual. this christmas was always going to be a different one as it will be the first one without my other grandma who passed over the summer. i've never had a christmas without her there and we're all conscious of it, so it's a bit of a sad time to begin with.
when my grandma and felix get here me and my sister will be taking care of four people between us (my gran, dad, mum and entertaining felix as a guest) as well as still grieving. we will still all be together on christmas day but it's just hard thinking that my mum might not be here on christmas eve, and she would be really upset if she had to spend that much time in hospital. and hospitals remind her of my grandma, she's in the ward not far from where my gran died so it's really close to home.
i'd just really appreciate some kind words, some advice on how to deal with all this. just writing it out has helped.
My mum a few days ago tripped off the bottom step of the stairs in our house and landed on her arm, dislocating her elbow. they gave her morphine and popped it back in the same night, but she still has to have an operation to remove some of the bits of shattered bone and make sure it's sitting in its socket correctly otherwise it might heal wrong and give her serious trouble later in life.
the operation we found out today, will be on tuesday (22nd). it's the only time the elbow specialist is available. we could go private, but it would cost an insane amount of money and probably wouldn't get seen any earlier. it's a quick, straightforward operation but it is under general anaesthetic so she will need a day in hospital afterward. it could be that she doesn't come out until thursday at the latest which is christmas eve, as we all know.
my mum's upset and cross with herself for doing it and that she has to miss most of the christmas preparations. my dad is still full of cold and trying to do his best to comfort her but it's not easy. me and my sister basically have to take over all the christmas jobs this year, my mum essentially has only one working arm so she can't cook dinner or hang decorations or anything.
on tuesday my boyfriend is going to come up to spend christmas with us, and my grandma (who is very old) is coming up the day before. so everything has to be done NOW.
it's a strange time. i feel worried for my mum and sad that christmas won't be the same as usual. this christmas was always going to be a different one as it will be the first one without my other grandma who passed over the summer. i've never had a christmas without her there and we're all conscious of it, so it's a bit of a sad time to begin with.
when my grandma and felix get here me and my sister will be taking care of four people between us (my gran, dad, mum and entertaining felix as a guest) as well as still grieving. we will still all be together on christmas day but it's just hard thinking that my mum might not be here on christmas eve, and she would be really upset if she had to spend that much time in hospital. and hospitals remind her of my grandma, she's in the ward not far from where my gran died so it's really close to home.
i'd just really appreciate some kind words, some advice on how to deal with all this. just writing it out has helped.