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oh *big hugs*
you need to talk to him! i know it's hard, and talking to him won't mean that he will get a job or change the situation, but at least he will know how fustrated you are. i really sympathise for you, i've given you advice before and often said how i am in the same situation. i think our SOs have to realise themselves that the situation is rubbish though. there's only so much other people can do or tell them to do. they have to come to it by themselves.
it's not fair that you're providing for the two of you, it affects the balance in relationships and this might be why he shrinks away from you or doesn't show you affection any more. if it gets worse i would consider relationship counselling, or even just suggest it to him, that alone may signal to him how concerned you are.
you need to talk to him! i know it's hard, and talking to him won't mean that he will get a job or change the situation, but at least he will know how fustrated you are. i really sympathise for you, i've given you advice before and often said how i am in the same situation. i think our SOs have to realise themselves that the situation is rubbish though. there's only so much other people can do or tell them to do. they have to come to it by themselves.
it's not fair that you're providing for the two of you, it affects the balance in relationships and this might be why he shrinks away from you or doesn't show you affection any more. if it gets worse i would consider relationship counselling, or even just suggest it to him, that alone may signal to him how concerned you are.