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I'm feeling really down today.
Last night my sister broke up with her boyfriend as he couldn't deal with their opposing views on religion. (He's catholic, my sister is not.) Basically, his parents didn't like her, simply because she wasn't catholic - even though they hadn't met her yet! On top of that, my sister was prepared to compromise on almost every issue, and yet the fact that, at base, she wasn't Catholic was something he couldn't deal with.
It made me feel really sad for her. My sister finds it really difficult to let her guard down, and this is the second time in about 6 months that she has just started to let someone in emotionally, only to have them break up with her. It's just really hard to see her so upset.
On top of that, my bf let me know last night that he isn't sure that he wants to get any further involved with someone who is planning on going overseas. I don't know what I can say to him other than I'm only going to be away for 6 months, and that I am coming back.
It's really hard - I know that I want to be with him, and that it wouldn't even occur to me to be anything other than faithful, and in a lifetime, 6 months is the blink of an eye, but I feel this is an issue that will crop up repeatedly until I leave and I'm not sure that I have the emotional strength at the moment to comfort him - I'm terrified as well as excited about my trip - I'm not anticipating it being a ball of fun, I'm expecting to be scary, lonely, hard work, and just generally a difficult experience - I'm going to need support and comfort from HIM!
I'm worried that as bad as breaking up now would be, I don't think I could cope if he broke up with me while I was overseas. I need his support and love since this will be a really hard time for me too.
I just don't know what to do - I don't know if I should fight for our relationship now, and be afraid that he doesn't want to put as much effort in as me in the long term, or if I should just give up and let him tell me that he wants to break it off.
We're supposed to be seeing each other tonight to discuss it, and maybe I'm just taking this far too seriously and he just wants a chat, but after my sister's experience I can't help but feel a little bit insecure.
I just feel so tired of being hurt. Why is life never easy? is it ever just uncompromising love and respect for each other? is there ever 100% trust?
And of course there are no answers, are there! We need a little broken heart post icon!
Last night my sister broke up with her boyfriend as he couldn't deal with their opposing views on religion. (He's catholic, my sister is not.) Basically, his parents didn't like her, simply because she wasn't catholic - even though they hadn't met her yet! On top of that, my sister was prepared to compromise on almost every issue, and yet the fact that, at base, she wasn't Catholic was something he couldn't deal with.
It made me feel really sad for her. My sister finds it really difficult to let her guard down, and this is the second time in about 6 months that she has just started to let someone in emotionally, only to have them break up with her. It's just really hard to see her so upset.
On top of that, my bf let me know last night that he isn't sure that he wants to get any further involved with someone who is planning on going overseas. I don't know what I can say to him other than I'm only going to be away for 6 months, and that I am coming back.
It's really hard - I know that I want to be with him, and that it wouldn't even occur to me to be anything other than faithful, and in a lifetime, 6 months is the blink of an eye, but I feel this is an issue that will crop up repeatedly until I leave and I'm not sure that I have the emotional strength at the moment to comfort him - I'm terrified as well as excited about my trip - I'm not anticipating it being a ball of fun, I'm expecting to be scary, lonely, hard work, and just generally a difficult experience - I'm going to need support and comfort from HIM!
I'm worried that as bad as breaking up now would be, I don't think I could cope if he broke up with me while I was overseas. I need his support and love since this will be a really hard time for me too.
I just don't know what to do - I don't know if I should fight for our relationship now, and be afraid that he doesn't want to put as much effort in as me in the long term, or if I should just give up and let him tell me that he wants to break it off.
We're supposed to be seeing each other tonight to discuss it, and maybe I'm just taking this far too seriously and he just wants a chat, but after my sister's experience I can't help but feel a little bit insecure.
I just feel so tired of being hurt. Why is life never easy? is it ever just uncompromising love and respect for each other? is there ever 100% trust?
And of course there are no answers, are there! We need a little broken heart post icon!