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Feb 17, 2004
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No matter where you go, there's always an "Archie Bunker" in the bunch. Instead of dealing with chronically negative people with venom, try the tools in this article!




Is Negativity Hurting Your Marriage?

<TABLE id=gh cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0><TBODY><TR><TD> </TD><TD>From Sheri & Bob Stritof,

Your Guide to Marriage.


Ways to Be More Positive

Negativity can come in the form of cynicism, criticism, whining, attacking, pessimism, discontent, perfectionism, and hyperintensity. All of these behaviors can push people away, including spouses.

Do you find yourself in a bad mood on a regular basis? Do you dwell on bad things or painful memories? Are you critical of everyone in your life? Do you look at incidents and events from a negative perspective? Are you a perfectionist? If someone says, "Good Morning", do you wonder what's good about it? If you answer yes to most of these questions, your negative personality could be having a harmful impact on your marriage.

If you are chronically negative, you can change your pattern of negative thinking. But you have to want to make this change. Here are some things you can do to be more positive:

<LI>Eat healthy foods

<LI>Get enough sleep


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Keep this simple, like listening to a favorite song, spending time on a creative hobby, watching a funny video, or taking a bubble bath.

<LI>When you feel a negative response entering your mind, question it. Force yourself to think of something positive instead. (Cali may disagree with this depending on the circumstance)

<LI>Stay in contact with positive people.

<LI>Accept compliments.

<LI>Be open to seeking professional help.

If you are married to a negative personality, you are not responsible for making him/her feel better. However, here are some things you can do to help your spouse be more positive:

<LI>Do not take the negativity personally.

<LI>Remember that the negativity is your spouse's problem, not yours.

<LI>If your spouse rejects your offers of help, don't over react.

<LI>Spend time with positive folks. You will need some time off from your spouse's negativity.

<LI>Invite your spouse to take a walk with you at least once a week.

<LI>Acknowledge your mate's positive accomplishments.

<LI>Encourage your partner to try new things.

<LI>Don't be afraid to say "Enough!" and change the subject to something more positive.

Be open to seeking professional help.