Need tips for stopping me from dying my hair

[venus giggles]

Okay so from the time I was little I can recall my hair red. My mom just told me she would put peroxide in my shampoo. So I started dying my hair young. At the age of 12 is when I started to dye my hair with my mom once a year. 16 when it got out of control for a while every like 3 months to 4 (I had it every color of the rainbow).

Now I'm older I keep dying my hair without a 2nd though, I really need help, any advice will help. As of right now my hair it halo done copper med blonde to black(natural color). I love it even tho my hair is almost fried.

I'm not a teen no more, will be getting married here soon (yes, he doesn't like me messing with my hair too much. I straighten it once maybe 2 a week other then that it's in a pony or down and I learned how to strip the color using home products. I do condition it all the time and put oils.)

So any advice will help. So please advise anything because I think this is starting to control my life now. Even more so now, I do it around 4 weeks just roots so it looks nice.

Thank you for reading and giving your advice

 

[Dalylah]

It sounds like this has gone beyond a habit. Like it is something you feel you need to do. You need to think of your hair as a expression of you, not as what defines you. I encourage you to follow your fiance's lead and learn to embrace what is natural to you, at least for a little while to get in under control. Black hair is gorgeous and usually super shiny.

You don't want your hair fried for your wedding. How far away is your wedding?

 

[venus giggles]

My wedding is in April 16th. I don't think my hair looks shine everyone says that I have grate hair even when I go all natural and have a bed head =(  I can't even have my hair too long even when I'm trying to grow it out any tips on how to change all this?