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A new guy joined my company about 3 months ago. And we sit next to each other. We both work on computers all day. I hardly know him, but we chat for like 5-10mins each day, just talking about random stuff like weekend plans and the weather and stuff.
One monday, he told me "I've been happily married for 15 years, I love my wife, but I couldn't stop thinking about you this whole weekend". I didn't know how to react because I was totally shocked! It's been years since anyone has flirted with me like this since I got married. But he knew he was wrong. He knew that he was being inappropriate at the workplace. But he didn't stop. He kept telling stuff like this for the next 2 weeks. He would write little notes and pass to me that said "I missed you very much yesterday"...more than anything, i was shocked that this guy was behaving like he was in high school! And it is not in my nature to tell someone to shut up. I just tried putting up with it, although my actions were showing him that what he was doing was wrong.
One say I couldn't take anymore and just stopped talking to him. He could sense that it was because of this issue. It's been a few days since I stopped talking to him. Now he doesn't bother me with such nonsense anymore. But I feel VERY uncomfortable sitting there all day next to him. I don't know if I should just put up with it for a while and hopefully things will get normal between us, or should I talk to my manager to at least get my desk changed so that I don't have to sit silently next to this guy? I would still have to maintain a professional attitude with this guy since the nature of my job involves working with him sometimes.
I work with a lot of men. A lot of men flirt, but in a more humorous kind of way, nothing that is serious. But this guy is just too creepy, and I hardly even know him! How should I handle this?
One monday, he told me "I've been happily married for 15 years, I love my wife, but I couldn't stop thinking about you this whole weekend". I didn't know how to react because I was totally shocked! It's been years since anyone has flirted with me like this since I got married. But he knew he was wrong. He knew that he was being inappropriate at the workplace. But he didn't stop. He kept telling stuff like this for the next 2 weeks. He would write little notes and pass to me that said "I missed you very much yesterday"...more than anything, i was shocked that this guy was behaving like he was in high school! And it is not in my nature to tell someone to shut up. I just tried putting up with it, although my actions were showing him that what he was doing was wrong.
One say I couldn't take anymore and just stopped talking to him. He could sense that it was because of this issue. It's been a few days since I stopped talking to him. Now he doesn't bother me with such nonsense anymore. But I feel VERY uncomfortable sitting there all day next to him. I don't know if I should just put up with it for a while and hopefully things will get normal between us, or should I talk to my manager to at least get my desk changed so that I don't have to sit silently next to this guy? I would still have to maintain a professional attitude with this guy since the nature of my job involves working with him sometimes.
I work with a lot of men. A lot of men flirt, but in a more humorous kind of way, nothing that is serious. But this guy is just too creepy, and I hardly even know him! How should I handle this?