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My boyfriend and I have been together for a little bit over two years. We're at the point where we are talking about marriage and future. So he's a big momma's boy and insists that I live with his parents after we get married (we're not getting married at least another few years). I don't want this at all. His excuse is that he is the only child and his parents may need help. I don't want him to abandon them of course but they aren't that old yet...and he needs to start his own family. I can already see so many problems with this. No privacy, independence, constant interference. The list goes on. I know that I won't be happy.
His mother seems very controlling of him as well. When I come over for dinner and say something to him, she looks over immediately. It could be as simple as, "Have you studied for your test tomorrow?" We're Asian and they are traditional and very old-fashioned. Anyway, we can live close by but I don't want to live under the same roof as them. I'm eventually buying my own house later on and don't plan on moving in with them or have them move in with us after marriage. I also asked him, what if my job requires me to relocate? What then? And he responds with, "then you find another job". This doesn't sound very supportive to me.
Why can't he understand from my point of view. What do you think? Am I being selfish to want to start a family my own way...?
His mother seems very controlling of him as well. When I come over for dinner and say something to him, she looks over immediately. It could be as simple as, "Have you studied for your test tomorrow?" We're Asian and they are traditional and very old-fashioned. Anyway, we can live close by but I don't want to live under the same roof as them. I'm eventually buying my own house later on and don't plan on moving in with them or have them move in with us after marriage. I also asked him, what if my job requires me to relocate? What then? And he responds with, "then you find another job". This doesn't sound very supportive to me.
Why can't he understand from my point of view. What do you think? Am I being selfish to want to start a family my own way...?