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When the sh*t really hits the fan, I then realize how different me and my husband are. It can be a good thing but it can also be a bad thing.
Last night, I brought up how I want to go back to school. I got my GED years ago after dropping out of school (like a moron, I know) and have spent the last 4 years raising my son and working. I really want to go back to school and found this college that is still currently enrolling (I have an appointment on thursday) and they offer financial aid, online courses and night classes, all great for me.
Well, the first thing my husband said is "You're fine where you're at."
I know he can have a f*ck it attitude but this really pissed me off. I have remotely asked for the past several months about what does he see in the future for us? Does he really think our measly jobs are gonna be sufficient enough in the future? We don't make minimum wage and our hours are pretty set, thank goodness, but I want more. I can't see myself living this life day in and out where I'm at.
I'm getting sick and tired of hearing from friends, how they did this and that and went here and there and I'm basically a set fixture going nowhere. My husband went on to say that you don't need an education for everything and that it's not a neccessity. I told him I completely agree but nowadays, it isn't like our parents old workforce where all you needed was a good recommendation and some experience, a lot of the times it's that piece of paper that makes all the difference.
My husband just continued on and on about how college is not that big of a deal and that there's no reason for me wanting to go when I'm perfectly fine at my job and that I'm not a single person anymore so I can't just make decisions to go or that our son needs both his parents. While that may be true, people in far worse situations with more children have done more and have sacrificed. Surely my son with both parents working and secure will have no problem. Nobody in my family ever went to college. Only one that I know of graduated and I'm the only one who got a GED, apart from my mom. In his family, only one has a diploma, two have a GED and the rest have been where they're at with the same pay for years.
I don't want to be like that and it literally makes me feel horrible that this is the rest of life if I don't change something. I see my parents struggling with the same things they struggled with when we were kids, only who they're paying the bills to is different.
I want to love my job. Is that really so much to ask for? I know it'll be hard but what the hell is easy nowadays?
Last night, I brought up how I want to go back to school. I got my GED years ago after dropping out of school (like a moron, I know) and have spent the last 4 years raising my son and working. I really want to go back to school and found this college that is still currently enrolling (I have an appointment on thursday) and they offer financial aid, online courses and night classes, all great for me.
Well, the first thing my husband said is "You're fine where you're at."
I'm getting sick and tired of hearing from friends, how they did this and that and went here and there and I'm basically a set fixture going nowhere. My husband went on to say that you don't need an education for everything and that it's not a neccessity. I told him I completely agree but nowadays, it isn't like our parents old workforce where all you needed was a good recommendation and some experience, a lot of the times it's that piece of paper that makes all the difference.
My husband just continued on and on about how college is not that big of a deal and that there's no reason for me wanting to go when I'm perfectly fine at my job and that I'm not a single person anymore so I can't just make decisions to go or that our son needs both his parents. While that may be true, people in far worse situations with more children have done more and have sacrificed. Surely my son with both parents working and secure will have no problem. Nobody in my family ever went to college. Only one that I know of graduated and I'm the only one who got a GED, apart from my mom. In his family, only one has a diploma, two have a GED and the rest have been where they're at with the same pay for years.
I don't want to be like that and it literally makes me feel horrible that this is the rest of life if I don't change something. I see my parents struggling with the same things they struggled with when we were kids, only who they're paying the bills to is different.
I want to love my job. Is that really so much to ask for? I know it'll be hard but what the hell is easy nowadays?