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I'm feeling unsure of this situation. I guess you could say I feel confused. Sorry this is going to be a long post...
In the past I have posted about my abusive exbf. About a year ago or slightly longer I was going to a medical doctor about my arm problems , had surgery etc. Anyways he became aware of the abuse. I didn't let on for a few visits but I think he sensed something wasn't quite right. Eventually I spilled my guts. The doctor was really supportive and watched out for me. He basically saved my life, helped me save my own life. I owe alot to him. Anyways while I was his patient, we formed a bit of a bond. Hard to describe, but definitely nothing inappropriate or romantic. He was retiring and at my last appt with him (this is last summer) I asked him if I could write him once in awhile to update him on my progress. He seemed quite happy about it and mentioned to send the letters to his office since he would be there for awhile cleaning and moving out. So I sent my first letter but I had a sneaky feeling maybe my letter didn't arrive. He had a witchy receptionist who had it in for me for some reason.
Anyways about a month later I approached the CEO of this medical bldg, heard he was very nice person. I didn't go into detail but I told him this particular doctor helped me, I asked if it would be okay to write him once in awhile with my progress, he agreed, but I was worried my letter didn't get through. The CEO said to give him the letter in a sealed envelope with the doctors name on it, he would make sure he gets the letter and any future letters I could do the same. So a few months later I sent my next letter. The doctor did respond to my letter and mentioned that he was away visiting family, plus he was in an accident. He was pleased to hear that I am feeling better etc. Overall it was a short letter but positive. There was no return address but I never expected him to add that.
A few months later I decided to write him another short letter. I didn't get a response. I figured maybe he doesn't want anymore letters and I will stop writing. I was happy that he wrote me once.
Fast forward to June of this year. I decided maybe I will try once more. I wrote him a short letter and at the end of it I asked "If it's okay with you, in the near future I will write you another progress letter."
Last week I received a letter from him. He said Thank you for your letter. I'm pleased to hear that you are feeling better and continuing to improve. I knew this would happen although these things take time. Good luck. This time he included his home address at the top of the letter along with his postal code.
I think I feel awkward about all of this because I am not always sure what to write him. I realize he was once my doctor and possibly they still have boundaries/ethics they have to follow when they retire. I am respectful and would never want to cross the line. I don't like this doctor romantically at all. More or less an acquaintance. If it lead to friendship well fine, if not, no big deal.
In his first letter he never wrote a return address and I figured that is within his rights.
This letter he did write his home address at the top of the letter. He never did say in the letter please write me. I assume by adding his address that is his way of letting me know yes write me?
With friends etc, you can chatter away in email, on the phone etc about anything. With him I am being careful. I don't want to get too personal. I don't want to cross any lines or make him uncomfortable so I am wary of what I say. I also sense he is shy and reserved, could see that in him while I was his patient.
I guess I find it an awkward situation. Not sure what to do.
In the past I have posted about my abusive exbf. About a year ago or slightly longer I was going to a medical doctor about my arm problems , had surgery etc. Anyways he became aware of the abuse. I didn't let on for a few visits but I think he sensed something wasn't quite right. Eventually I spilled my guts. The doctor was really supportive and watched out for me. He basically saved my life, helped me save my own life. I owe alot to him. Anyways while I was his patient, we formed a bit of a bond. Hard to describe, but definitely nothing inappropriate or romantic. He was retiring and at my last appt with him (this is last summer) I asked him if I could write him once in awhile to update him on my progress. He seemed quite happy about it and mentioned to send the letters to his office since he would be there for awhile cleaning and moving out. So I sent my first letter but I had a sneaky feeling maybe my letter didn't arrive. He had a witchy receptionist who had it in for me for some reason.
Anyways about a month later I approached the CEO of this medical bldg, heard he was very nice person. I didn't go into detail but I told him this particular doctor helped me, I asked if it would be okay to write him once in awhile with my progress, he agreed, but I was worried my letter didn't get through. The CEO said to give him the letter in a sealed envelope with the doctors name on it, he would make sure he gets the letter and any future letters I could do the same. So a few months later I sent my next letter. The doctor did respond to my letter and mentioned that he was away visiting family, plus he was in an accident. He was pleased to hear that I am feeling better etc. Overall it was a short letter but positive. There was no return address but I never expected him to add that.
A few months later I decided to write him another short letter. I didn't get a response. I figured maybe he doesn't want anymore letters and I will stop writing. I was happy that he wrote me once.
Fast forward to June of this year. I decided maybe I will try once more. I wrote him a short letter and at the end of it I asked "If it's okay with you, in the near future I will write you another progress letter."
Last week I received a letter from him. He said Thank you for your letter. I'm pleased to hear that you are feeling better and continuing to improve. I knew this would happen although these things take time. Good luck. This time he included his home address at the top of the letter along with his postal code.
I think I feel awkward about all of this because I am not always sure what to write him. I realize he was once my doctor and possibly they still have boundaries/ethics they have to follow when they retire. I am respectful and would never want to cross the line. I don't like this doctor romantically at all. More or less an acquaintance. If it lead to friendship well fine, if not, no big deal.
In his first letter he never wrote a return address and I figured that is within his rights.
This letter he did write his home address at the top of the letter. He never did say in the letter please write me. I assume by adding his address that is his way of letting me know yes write me?
With friends etc, you can chatter away in email, on the phone etc about anything. With him I am being careful. I don't want to get too personal. I don't want to cross any lines or make him uncomfortable so I am wary of what I say. I also sense he is shy and reserved, could see that in him while I was his patient.
I guess I find it an awkward situation. Not sure what to do.