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After being together only one month shy of six years, and all of my adult life, me and my fiance have officially broken up. Our relationship turned rocky shortly after leaving California in December and returning back home to Michigan, but I was always convinced that things would get better.
He was diagnosed with a paranoid schizophrenia about two years ago after returning from the war and gets unstable about two-three months out of the year. It was tough dealing with those periods, but when he got healthy again I realized why I hung in there. Unfortunately in December he had a lapse that to this day has not gone away. As the months went by I was hopeful he would go back to normal, but even with his treatment, which includes medication and therapy he has taken a turn for the worse. He has gotten so ill that he cannot be left alone and is considered to be unsafe in public. After seeing the depths that this illness can reach I feel that I cannot continue on in a healthy marriage with him and I could never consider leaving any children we would have in his care.
I've known that this relationship was coming to an end since May, but I just wanted to wait for the right time to end it. I think that due to the time I've been weighing and debating the decision in my head, I have come to terms with all this. My issue at this point is moving on knowing that if this illness had never shown up we would be happy together.
Has anyone ever been in a situation, where you and someone just couldn't be together, for reasons you really couldn't control? How did you deal with it?
He was diagnosed with a paranoid schizophrenia about two years ago after returning from the war and gets unstable about two-three months out of the year. It was tough dealing with those periods, but when he got healthy again I realized why I hung in there. Unfortunately in December he had a lapse that to this day has not gone away. As the months went by I was hopeful he would go back to normal, but even with his treatment, which includes medication and therapy he has taken a turn for the worse. He has gotten so ill that he cannot be left alone and is considered to be unsafe in public. After seeing the depths that this illness can reach I feel that I cannot continue on in a healthy marriage with him and I could never consider leaving any children we would have in his care.
I've known that this relationship was coming to an end since May, but I just wanted to wait for the right time to end it. I think that due to the time I've been weighing and debating the decision in my head, I have come to terms with all this. My issue at this point is moving on knowing that if this illness had never shown up we would be happy together.
Has anyone ever been in a situation, where you and someone just couldn't be together, for reasons you really couldn't control? How did you deal with it?